ok so this is my first time posting so if i do anything wrong pls tell me. i was talking to my guardian (aka mom) about weed. basically i think its safer to get weed from a smoke shop rather than getting it from a plug because i know i wont be getting laced or scammed. shes not fond of me smoking weed at all but she knows im doing it (obv). my cousin (avid smoker) who lives w me told me i was being gross and that hes really grossed out by the conversation so i'm trying to figure out why. basically the convo went like this "mom i think it would be safer if you let (cousin's name) buy me weed from a shop rather than getting it from people i dont trust. even if they dont want to do it atleast some adult should. im going to smoke whether you like it or not, so i think its just safer." my mom basically said "you shouldnt be smoking anyways, youre going to die & youre killing yourself." which i responded with "well (multiple family member's names) have been smoking for years and they havent died yet, i feel like you want me to die because you wont let me be safe, i dont even know what all you can put in weed pens that will kill me." she basically just repeated the whole thing ab "youre killing yourself, youre not smart for smoking, (cousin's name) is quitting weed so you should too." and i started talking ab "well you dont know how weed feels, i feel like i need it sometimes because its helps with my anger issues and calms me down" and my cousin walks in talking ab "yall shouldnt be having this convo at 11pm, mom tired, youre probably tired, and im really grossed out by this convo. youre being gross. lets continue this in the morning." and im really confused because i understand that smoking weed is bad for your health especially for minors, but i dont get how i was being gross for wanting to be safe. i know ive worded some stuff wrong before so im thinking i worded some stuff wrong but im just so confused and offended. i dont get why wanting to be safe is gross or wrong. please help