So for context I (20F) and my best friend (20F) have been best friends for 5 years, but we are part of a friend group of 4 girls. We became best friends because we used to work together and spend most of the day together.

So throughout the friendship we don’t always see eye to eye on everything, but mostly because she is always seeking male attention, tbh most of the time I don’t care, but it’s different when we’re in a group and I’m having a conversation with someone and she just barges in and interrupts just so she can have the attention and she tries to bring me down just so she can look better in everyone’s eyes. I’ve talked to her about this and she always expresses how sorry she is. In all honesty i think this is a minor problem.

However the real problem starts when a guy (21M) in our class whom we’ll name Jason tried to get into our friend group, he didn’t have any friends and he always acted as one of the girls (this may be not important but he is gay and my best friend is a lesbian). Moving forward, he tried to get into all of our plans, including sleepovers, trips and everything. Jason is a really good friend, the problem is not with him, we really enjoy his company, however he does have a sarcastic personality. My best friend whom we’ll call Hannah, acquired this trait of his personality, but she isn’t just sarcastic she has kind of like a patronizing attitude.

Most of the times when we’re all talking and she’s not the one talking she’ll go on and mock us, but not Jason, and Jason will continue the joke. It has come to a point where we’ve become two different friend groups because we can’t tolerate them anymore and because we are always excluded from their conversations.

At first we were hurt because of their behavior towards us but in the end we just tried to let the situation rest and isolate from them. We did talk to her about this and she just said she was sorry and she didn’t mean to treat us like that, however she carried on with that attitude.

For bonus information, I had to quit the job I had with her because of school, however 4 months ago my dad was fired from his job so I asked her to ask the manager if i could go back at least until my dad’s situation improved. She lied to me for 2 weeks saying the manager told her that i couldn’t go back, a week later i decided to text him myself and he told me that of course I could come back, when I confronted her about it she said that everyone on the department disliked me that’s why she didn’t want to ask the manager.

Overall I feel like this past year she has been a really shitty friend, I’ve always been there for her and now when I try to talk to her she’s just laughing at whatever I have to say.

Thank you in advance for anyone who read this, and if you have any questions or advice for me I will be very grateful.