For context, I love my mother in law. She treats me better than my own mother. I have lots of respect for her. I always tell my wife we should check in with her when we travel so she knows we arrived to our destination safely. I stop by her house, and check on her. I call her on the phone to see how she's doing. Over the years she has confided personal matters with me that she hasn't shared with her own daughter (my wife). You get the point, we mutually love and respect each other.

Fast forward to today. My wife tells me how we can never sell my parents vacation home in an upscale Beach town. It is in a very desirable location, and we can always rent it out or AirBNB it. I agreed, and said we would pay out my siblings to make sure we kept it if they didn't want it.

So tonight, my wife tells me that her mother said she would never sell her house to her or her brother because it won't be fair to the other sibling. My wife agreed with her mother saying it wouldn't be fair. Her house is in a very desirable location, and I suggested her mom, brother and her all sit down when the time comes and discuss it. Her mother assumes things and makes things up in her head. She has a history of assuming things and being wrong. My wife has similar tendencies.

I said, "that's dumb, stupid and a village mindset (she was born in a different country, and grew up in a rural village on a farm, and did not finish school). What if her brother didn't want the house, and we paid him for his half of the house? How come this same concept would apply to my family, but not yours?"

My wife's demeanor changed and she said, "It's very demeaning to use those words, and it triggers me. You're very uneducated (I have a Masters Degree) for using words like that. Smart and educated people don't use words like that." I google searched a few billionaires and found quotes of them using "dumb" and "stupid" in sentences and read them to her. I looked "dumb" up in the dictionary and similar words are stupid, unintelligent and ignorant. I said can I use any of these words to describe the comment she made and she said no.

I looked up the word "stupid" in the dictionary and it says, "having or showing a great lack of intelligence." I said, "exactly, she doesn't know what she's talking about. That was a stupid comment."

I told my wife "take the emotion out of it, and pretend we weren't speaking about your mother do you see how this was a dumb, stupid and village mindset comment to make?" She said, "you should have said she has a lack of knowledge in real estate." However, that doesn't make sense, because she was defending her mother's stance saying it wouldn't be fair to her brother.

So, am AITAH for using those words to describe a comment my mother in law made? This was a conversation between a husband and wife in the privacy of our own home. Just for clarification, I never said SHE was dumb or stupid. Thanks.

Edit for more context: Mother in law can not afford her home, and has to sell. Her brother lives out of state, and she will be moving in with us because she doesn't want to leave the area. I have no problem supporting her or taking her in. I love this woman.

I already own rental properties, and believe keeping the property in the family will be a smarter financial investment than selling it. We don't need the cash, and that's why I don't think it's a smart move to sell it.

I feel there is a double standard when it comes to the properties.