My DIL recently cheated on my son. It happened multiple times for about a month with an old boyfriend. My son has decided to try to work through this with her. I live across the country and am heading to their area over Mother's Day - mostly to spend time with my mom and sister, but I'd love to see my son as well. He wants to include his wife in any get-together activities, but I am still processing all that happened and would prefer to skip seeing her this trip. I do hope they are able to work through it and eventually come through this stronger than ever. I don't have any ill will toward my DIL. I don't hate her, but I do hate what she did. I am struggling with the multiple times thing because that took planning and involved many layers of lies/deceit. I feel like it speaks to her core character/moral compass and I am left reeling because my view of her/feelings toward her from that perspective have now changed. I believe I can eventually move past things if they can, but I would like more time and would prefer not to be in her presence just yet. If forced to see her, I would want to have a conversation with her about what she did so I could share my feelings instead of being put in a situation where I have to pretend everything is okay/act like nothing happened. I just don't think I could do that because it would be lying. AITA?