Myself (24F) and my partner (27M) have been together for a little over 3 years, for some parts of it they have been good memories but there are also a lot of bad ones too. I met him very young and he just got out of jail, for drug charges. He is a nice guy and can be very romantic and loveable but only when he wants to be. I have helped him through drug addictions, job hunting and self esteem issues. But the issues seem to run so deep that I'm always the one left hurt. He tell white lies and runs off some nights without a word until he comes back the next day. He likes to have is alone time as he says, even if we are in the same house, he sits on the couch and I'm left to sit in my room alone. When I express my feelings or thoughts of a situation and how he has hurt me he will ignore me and shut down or just try to get me to shut up and tells me what I wanna hear, makes promises but never sticks to his word. We have been living together for a couple years and I have finally brought up the courage to split and have him move out as it is my parents house and they left it to me to rent from them. This has been going on for months now trying to get him to leave, but his name is on the lease. He plays cat and mouse games with my head which ends with me crying in my car, and this can last for days or weeks at a time. He has cared for me and done some wonderful things over time such as fly me to broome for my birthday or buy me 14k gold earrings, gave me his old car, paid my rent and bills for over 6 months and many other things. But the repeated hurt and blame game with arguments seems to take a tole on my mental health and wellbeing. I love this man but I know he isn't good for me, I've mentioned living separate and trying to work things out but he gave me an ultimatum of living and being together or not at all. How do I get him to leave because I feel like I'll be stuck in this situation forever. Am I the asshole for wanting this?