(Update, she just went off on me in the service station and said that she thought my partner manipulated the whole situation and to tell him to fuck off and my grandad said he thought the wedding was just ‘okay’)

So I’ll start off by saying my gran has been a part of my life for ever and she was so good to me but the older I’ve gotten the more I’ve found out about family problems and I think this weekend has sort of sealed it for me. This weekend was my dad’s wedding and he lives at the bottom of the country which is a long way away and a lot of money to spend. I was originally going to fly but after pricing it up found out that I didn’t have the funds. I asked my grandparents (who were also going) if they were able to give me and my partner a lift to witch they said no originally, because they don’t get along with my partner I brushed it off and said I’d price up a coach by my dad took it upon himself to ask if they would just give me a lift on my own and they said yes. Fast forward to a few days before the wedding I phone my grandparents to ask if she wanted petrol money and she immediately became short and refused to take any money. She then tried to make me feel guilty about how my granddad would be working before the trip and would have had a ‘12 hour day’ by the time we were like halfway there. She continued to ask me if it was just me coming and bought up that I accidentally asked if they could give me a lift on the Saturday with a ‘where is your head at’. All I could think was if she didn’t want to give me a lift then she could’ve just said no. In addition to this she said that someone would be dressing up as a dalek at the wedding and said ‘so that’s the kind of wedding it’s going to be…’, the day of her taking me to the wedding she was 30 minutes late to picking me up from the bus stop and didn’t even have the decency to message me to say she’d be late.

To add to this the family problems I found out about are that my dad bought my stepsisters to her house to meet them to be met with (after the fact) I don’t think you should bring them over again and so she’s had nothing to do with them, same with another of her two grandkids who she won’t make the effort to speak to

It’s incredibly disappointing that she would act like this, especially on the weekend of her son’s wedding but I’m not sure if I would be taking it a step too far?

TLDR: would I be the asshole for not speaking to my grandma because of all of the problems she has caused?