So for a little context: my bf and I have been together for almost 7 years. During these years he was pretty much doing nothing whit his life BUT. He entered university in another city and when I tried to reach out to him (a lot, because I felt him as distant as ever) he raged out at me, calling names and gave me fault for choices HE made in the past (for me) as like I forced him to do that choices and other unpleasant thing that hurted a lot. I didn’t eat for a whole week and it seemed like he broke up but then we talked. He left university and now he is in another city and he is working a normal job 9-17 (max 9-18) with lunch break. Again, he was very sad and asked me to be there for him and eventually reach him and I said that obviously I will be there for him but I couldn’t, at that exact time, reach him for work duties. He began to be distant and uninterested, he is tired but still goes out every now and then, remembering the last situation I decided a different approach: I said to him first to be a little more present and He didn’t listen, so I wrote him that it’s ok to not have the energy to write or call me but he should inform me of that because I am expecting a message so I wouldn’t expect anything for that day/period and go on happily with my life, again he didn’t do that. I asked some explanation as why he was responding with only-word messages or stickers and he got mad, VERY MAD, he accused me of the same things he accused me the last time (years ago) and called me names, said very disgusting things that made me only want to block him and now we are no contact expecting to see each other and talk things out. Another little hint: as I observed in these years, he is very avoidant and I am very anxious in relationships but I still try to understand him, asking for the bare minimum when it comes to communication. We are going to see each other, WIBTA if, FOR ONCE, treat him as he treats me when is mad? Not calling names or anything but I’m very submissive so for once I would like to react properly to his texts instead of crying my eyes out and letting him unleashed all of his rage at me? He wrote a lot of mean things to me, accused me even of a disgusting thing and painted me like a literal monster. I’m tired, while he was writing I just wished for him to end it all and give me peace as I was emptied of every crumb of vitality. I really tried to understand him, asking him to help me understanding his point of view but he never responded. Help me! I want things to work out but I ran miles to understand him and I wish he could do some little steps to also understand me