so i’m 21m and i live with my parents, long story short ive been wanting to join the military since i was in middle school and i was going to join with my best friend after we graduated high school but i was in a very horrible toxic relationship with my ex who threatened to leave me if i joined. anyways since january ive been talking to recruiters and filling out paper work for the military behind my parents back because i don’t want them to change the way they treat me just because in leaving. a couple months ago my mom was threatening to kick me out and she also threatened to take my car that i WORKED for just because i was out late. my plan is to tell them i joined the military when i arrive at my boot camp. all in all my family have just been having mood changes a lot and i don’t know when the next argument is going to happen but i want to be serving my country before it happens. so, AITA for not telling them about my plans?