My mother has never visited me in the 27 years since I left home but visits my siblings. The only time she initiates contact is on my birthday and at xmas, all other contact is initiated by me- texts, calls to see how she is doing etc. My siblings also never visit or call but I make sure to make regular contact (sometimes with no response) or visit when I am travelling in or near the towns in which they live. Whenever my mother visits the sibling closest to me (an 8 hour round trip for me) she demands I visit but never comes to stay with me. I also am the only sibling of 5 to have given birth to her grandchildren but she never calls to talk to them and only bank transfers money for them on special occasions. She doesn't call me to check in on how I am doing even though I have been severely depressed and put on medication because I am struggling from a range of issues stemming from childhood trauma, the loss of my 20 year career during Cvid and raising 2 children with support from my husband only. She has said to me if she had her time again she wouldn't have had children, yet she always makes time for my other siblings, visits them, regularly calls and even relays to me stories of how hard they have it, expecting me to be sympathetic about towards them about similar situations to me, without acknowledging my struggles at all, simply saying 'oh well' and changing the subject or bringing the conversation back to her if I bring them up in response. If challenged she says things like 'oh, gotta go I have to meet with such and such soon. AITA in my family? I have never had a falling out or argument with anyone and am always nice and pleasant when we talk/meet up. I am struggling to understand why I have been abandoned by everyone since I left to go to university at 18. Any thoughts?