I am due in July with my double rainbow baby. Throughout my pregnancy all my mother and I have done is fight. She hasn’t been sympathetic when I explain my health issues (I’m high risk) and is very dismissive with my concerns. Not only is she unhelpful as a mother, but when I explain boundaries I plan to make with my daughter she tells me I’m worrying about stuff that hasn’t happened yet and to calm down. Mind you, one of the biggest issues is her history of lying. All she does is lie and keep company with drug addicts and rapists. I told her I don’t think I’ll let her have pictures of my daughter because I don’t want people with an unsavory past having copies and I know she’ll distribute them. She swears she won’t, but she has a relationship with my cousin who SA’d me from age 8-11 still and tells me she doesn’t. (This cousin reached out to my older brother less than a year ago about how my mother asked to move in with him). Because I can’t trust my mother, I feel like the best options are to refrain from letting her have pictures of my daughter, only phone calls, and she can only see my daughter if she visits me (I’m in an entirely different state). My mother says she has a right to pictures and a relationship with my daughter, but I disagree. Am I being over the top with this or are my feelings valid?