AITA- my in-laws So a lil back story I met my husband when I was 17 and he was 23. He had recently been divorced from his ex-wife who he was only married to a year and together with for 2 years. She left him after getting pregnant by someone else (he accepted the baby after she had cheated and had plans on raising it as his own). When the child was 18m old he came home from work to find all of his ex-wife belongings and the baby's were gone and a note on the coffee table telling him she found someone else and wanted a divorce..... Fast forward to him and I getting together. I had previously met his parents, sister, and his BIL before I ever met him. They knew me bc of my godmother and we would attend their church (his dad was the preacher)..... So when my husband and I started dating I didn't think it'd be an issue, his family was always nice to me at church.... Until him and I got serious.... Any time I'd come over to visit with him and his family they would call me by the ex-wifes name and then say it was an accident (keep in mind they KNEW me). They would talk about his ex-wife and even call him and give him updates about her life at least a few times a week. I tried to brush it off, but I also let him know that it made me uncomfortable, they didn't care ..... Then we got engaged and was planning our wedding, bc my soon to be FIL was a preacher I asked he would perform our ceremony, which he was the one that married my husband and his ex-wife . He looked at me and said "No, bc in the eyes of God he is still married and it goes against my religion!"..... Fine by me whatever.... At the wedding(2009) they were sour pusses the entire time, they didn't want any photos with me or my family and even in the pics with my husband they weren't smiling or anything...... Years ago by and they are still "slipping up" and calling me by his ex-wifes name and he tells them multiple times that it uncalled for, but yet they still do it ... My MIL and SIL would invite the ex-wife out for lunch or shopping dates, but never tried to connect with me. There would be times I'd just sit and cry bc I was young and never invisioned having in-laws that treated me like this. No matter what I did, they never accepted me.... In 2015 my husband and I had an agreement with my SIL to buy their house and we moved in. We were having fertility issues and in 2016 was in the process of trying to adopt through the foster care system. We had home inspections and we passed everything and was approved! The same week we got approved my SIL called my husband and said "we decided to sell the house to someone else, you have to be out in 30 days" we were flabbergasted and they knew we were trying to start a family and all the things we went through to be approved... We had no where to go and had to move into a camper in my mom's back yard. At the end of 2016 after living in a tiny camper for 4 months we finally found a house for rent and we moved in at the end of November. In December I found out I was 6weeks pregnant and at 8weeks the Drs told me I was miscarrying and sent me home to pass everything at home. We were absolutely shattered and heartbroken. I didn't want to attend Christmas eve events at either of our families bc I was in pain physically and emotionally. My in-laws pitched a fit for us to be there so we went. I just sat on the couch and no one said a word to me, not even a hey or anything! They told me husband I just needed to move on and get over it, I took his keys and left him there and he had to get a ride home. Christmas morning I woke up and went to the bathroom and had passed the placenta and everything. We spent 12hrs on Christmas in the ER to make sure I had finished miscarrying. After that him and I split and separated in 2018, his family had become so ugly towards me telling me it was my fault I miscarried and he started drinking heavily (they said his drinking was my fault as well). I wasn't allowed to grieve the loss of my child, I was told to get over it and suck it up numerous times. Although we were separated we still kept in contact and I got pregnant with our daughter. His alcohol drinking was out of control, but he promised if we got back together he would quit and we could be a family. So we got back together and was trying to work things out. All the while my MIL was calling me a whore behind my back and saying my daughter wasn't my husbands and wanted us to DNA test bc they wouldn't accept my daughter if it came back negative..... DNA test proved he was the father and even then they still had hesitations and was rude to me every time we were around them, most of the time they wouldn't even talk to me or acknowledge my presence..... I got pregnant with our son 2 years later and they had me do another DNA test to prove my son was his... Again the DNA test said he was the father..... They still treated me and my kids differently and after years of disapproval and putting up with his family treating me badly I told him that I no longer want a relationship with his family, none of them! I stopped going over there and blocked them on all social media. They were furious and said he shouldn't be with me bc of not having anything to do with them... AITA for cutting them out of my life after 16 years of us being together? My husband has defended me numerous times over the years, but it never does anything and he still allows them to trash talk me and my kids. I don't even want my children around them, but he still takes them saying "that's their family" ..... I tried so hard to gain their approval without any positive outcome... Keep in mind they are all Christians and FIL is a preacher !!!!