In a relationship (40ish m) with woman who is 8 years my junior.

We’ve both been screwed over in past relationships and before making it official 5+ years ago we laid out some ground rules. Honest no matter what. Full transparency with everything and anything (phones, log ins etc). In addition if we’re ever apart from each other and we feel insecure we will FaceTime and the other answers with no exceptions.

So last night she goes out to a movie. Which is okay. She’s usually done this with her siblings. But last night they declined and she went solo.

After the movie she goes to a karaoke bar. At some point she stopped responding to texts and calls. I get worried that she lost her phone and is solo, so I ask her siblings if they know she’s okay.

She ignores everyone except one.

Feeling completely shrugged off I start to feel insecure and FaceTime attempt. Nothing.

My thoughts are towards her infidelity. But give the benefit of the doubt.

I don’t hear from her for 2 hours!!

What else am I going to think. She broke the FaceTime promise!!

I end up sending a text explaining these feelings. One of them citing that she should not come “to my house”.

Thinking she would stay in town with a siblings.

She finally answers my 4th FaceTime call in a RR. When it doesn’t matter because it’s a convenient way to show that she’s alone at the time of call.

She’s mad at me! She cites that according to me she doesn’t have a home.

I had enough and said out of anger how we shouldn’t be together.

Seeing on a map app, she’s left the bar. I call and speak with her. After cooling down ask her to come home. She declines and said she would sleep at our employers parking lot. She ends up hanging out with adopted brother and stays overnight at his apartment.