Hey all! Wanted to get some outside input.

I (32 M) and my wife (36 F) have been married for 6 years. We have 2 kids from her previous relationship and then 2 littles we are providing care for. We both work M-F and she typically has 1-2 days off per week. She is very involved in youth sports and volunteering, but it’s got to the point where I feel it’s excessive.

So the season hasn’t started and we had the discussion she cannot do both coaching and the board as it’s too much of a time commitment. She agreed to drop the board. Tonight was a board meeting for 4 hours after she got off work, so she didn’t get home until after 9. Kids didn’t get to see her and they were asking when she’d get home.

I texted her I was annoyed that she agreed to drop the board but she is still doing it. She ignored me to talk to people all the way home. When she got home I was annoyed which of course started an argument.

She makes me out to be the bad guy, even though I’m asking just to reduce the time.

Currently it’s about 10-15 hours a week of volunteering (varies M-Sun), but once games start up it ends up being more like 20-25 hours a week.

That doesn’t include the other time running to do things for the Board or planning events, etc.

AITAH for asking her to reduce the amount of volunteering so she can be at home with the family more?