I am 35f and have two children with my late husband , 12f and 10m. We lost him five years back in terrible accident.

Started seeing john (40m) two years back through common friend. He brought joy to my life again and we got serious and were planning our wedding soon . He had also lost his wife and has two sons 12m and 8 m.

Issue started when we started discussing about blending families. My ex came from lots of money and left millions for kids in trusts, which pays for their expensive school, future college and further.

His family sees through it as they never liked me, because I didn't come from money. But they love my kids. And we are cordial. They took them as well as me to Europe last summer and have plans for future trip this year too.

I am working a decent job and earn decent enough to take care of their other needs as well as mine. He left me house with no mortgage and many things

Situation with John is different. He has mortgage, his late wife wasn't working. He earns decent. But with fees, activities and their future savings. He is always money tight. His children go to decent school. But my children go to top most one

Now he said what we gonna do with parity here. Even if i cut big portion of my income to pay for john's children. It gonna affect our day to day activities and my savings. More he said, we have to stop expensive gifts which my kids gets from their dad's side. And stop the trips.

I told him that maximum I can contribute some to step children school education. And make things fair at home from our income.

But i can't stop grandparents from giving things to kids and taking them on trips. I won't go myself. I told him to move to my home, so that he can rent his house out and rent will pay mortgage. But he didn't like the suggestion.

We decided to end it and he said i should have made it clear from day one and called me ah . That he can't let his children be second class. I told him I won't treat them second class, but somethings are not in my hand and it's not my fault that my kids father was rich.

I am mentally devastated, but I don't see how could I stop the resentment at home.. I can't stop my kids opportunities in life.