Kayla (27) and I (F28) met in a college club when we were 20 & 21. I was shy and she outgoing. Kayla befriended me quickly and I was thankful bc I didn’t really have any friends.

Kayla had a rough childhood with abusive parents, low income and not much familial support. I come from a 2 parent household and the (lower) middle class (my parents were smart with money and were supporting more than my siblings and I; gma and aunts).

Kayla always minimized my problems and when she was having a problem and id say, “ I’m sorry, I understand”. But since I hadn’t actually gone through that trauma (ex. Physical abuse) Kayla said I couldn’t understand.

Kayla was in a shitty relationship, but her bf was pretty much the only person she had in her life (other than a few close highschool friends.) she had decided to breakup with him and asked me to help her move out. I show up and move all the shit for her. The next day she wants help moving back into the same apartment. I was pissed and harsh and said no, so she cut me off.

A few years later she reaches out and we start talking again. The thing is the girl is always having a crisis.

We ended up in the same city last year 3 by happenstance (I moved for work, she was living there bc of family and was now a single mother of Joey (2)). We hung out a few times, which usually ended up with me helping her clean.

We are both moved back closer to home now. We had talked a bit over the last year and she told me she tried to hurt herself last fall.

I saw her for the first time last week at her apartment, first time I visited without helping her do something. Today she texts around 3 saying she’s not doing well as a relative is in the hospital, asking me to come stay the night. I live in another town an hour away.

I told her no around 5, I’m home sick, which I actually am and I’m sorry she’s going through this. I have now texted her 2 more times asking if she’s ok, no response.