My in-laws are visiting for a week and automatically assumed they’d be staying with us. The problem is, my husband and I live in a small two-bedroom apartment with our two kids, and we’re already tight on space. The last time they stayed here, it was chaos - zero privacy, boundaries constantly pushed, and way too much stress on everyone, including the kids.

So this time around, I tried to get ahead of the situation and gently suggested they stay at a hotel nearby. I even found a really nice, reasonably priced one and offered to pitch in to help cover the cost. We’ve been doing okay financially lately - I had a little extra cash come in from a small bet win and wanted to use it to make things easier for everyone. But instead of being open to it, they got offended.

They insisted we have “plenty of room” and said it’s ridiculous to spend money on a hotel when they’re family. They also made some passive-aggressive comments about me not wanting them around, which isn’t true at all. I just remember how draining and disruptive their last visit was, and I’m trying to avoid a repeat of that - especially with our kids' routines being impacted.

My husband is stuck in the middle. He understands why I don’t want them staying here but also doesn’t want to upset his parents. Now I feel like I’m being painted as the unreasonable one for trying to maintain some boundaries and peace in our home.

AITA for standing my ground and asking them to stay at a hotel instead of cramming into our apartment for a full week?