My (27f) family threw me a baby shower the other day and it was (supposed to be) on the smaller side with just close friends and family. It was also at a very expensive restaurant, so it was a very nice venue with great food.

My sister in law (brother’s wife) insisted that her family wanted to come to my shower. I’ve only met these people once and barely know them, but I said okay fine…I guess they can come since they already invited themselves.

Fast forward to the end of the shower, the staff informs me that they’re going to start packing up all the food from the buffet and leave it for me on the table to take home. The worker also said that he packed the rest of my cake and will leave that for me. While I was saying bye to my friends and family, my SIL’s family took all my food and my entire cake and packed it up for themselves to take home. They also took all the party favors on the table. They didn’t even ask me or tell me they were taking anything. They said bye quickly and left, and then I realized all my stuff was gone.

I have tried to talk to my brother about it, and he told me he’s not discussing it with his wife because she would “get mad” and “take it out of context.” I told him that from now on, her family is banned from all events because they essentially stole all my stuff. He said I need to let it go, it’s not that big of a deal and I’m an asshole for excluding them from future events.

I might be an asshole because I’m not sure if they just didn’t know or took my stuff on purpose. I barely know these people so I have no idea what their intentions were. AITAH?