me (17f) and my friend also 17f have been close for a couple years now. in the span of our friendship shes had 2 boyfriends but her first one was very on and off.

(this was last year) i noticed that every-time they were “off” she wants to spend so much time with me, always asking to hangout, and putting in so much effort into our friendship. but the minute she was back together with him, it was like i didnt even exist

she broke up with that guy for good in December 2024 and from then until the end of february 2025, she was single again and putting in so much effort. i thought we were getting a lot closer

but then, she got a new second boyfriend near the end of feb/start of march. the same thing is happening. ever since then (its been 5-6 weeks) i barely see her. she sees him everyday. she cancels plans on me to hangout with him, lies and says shes grounded but goes and sees him, etc. and on the slight occasion that we DO hangout, she would cut it short to go see him.

BIG DISCLAIMER: im still superrr happy for her, this new guy seems nice, and im glad shes found somebody better than her ex. im not pissed that she’s spending a lot of time with him, but im pissed when she cancels on me last minute for him, and im pissed that im only a priority in her life when shes single

Am I overreacting? is it valid to bring it up?