For context me and wife have been together for 9 years now, she used to always talk about wishing she could be a SAHM so when I was able to make that happen I did, she was overjoyed. So I work 60-72 hours a week, 3rd shift 12 hours a night. I still do everything I can to help with the house, help clean the house when she needs it, if she’s sick go days with no sleep so she can rest, I make sure to surprise her with flowers, candy, anything really to try to show and tell her everything she does is appreciated. So my son has field day today so I took last night off of work, I worked Monday and Tuesday, stayed up all day Wednesday so I could get the yard mowed and spend some time with my wife and kids, I ended up not sleeping until 2 this morning because my youngest daughter kept waking up saying she was having nightmares so I again let my wife sleep and stayed up so I could make sure my babygirl was fine. So I went to sleep at 2 am so I was awake for 33 hours straight woke up at 6 to help get the kids ready for school, I just randomly said “I am so sleepy I might take a nap before I go back to work tonight” her response was “must be nice, I wish I could take naps” my response was simply “yeah I wish you could to but hopefully you can get some really good sleep tonight” this just made her randomly say how easy I have it and she has it way harder than me. I’ve never and I mean never been under the false impression that being a SAHM mom is easy by any means, that’s why I do everything I can to show her I appreciate it. My thing is AITAH for wishing she appreciated me the same?