okay for discretion (pretty sure he’s on here and ik my mom is) i’ll change the story a bit. let’s say for the stories sake that he is asking up to flush our tampons (he is asking us to hide them in a different way but it’s too specific and he’d know this is about him. please don’t point out that you can’t flush tampons bc it’s just for the sake of the story). him and my mom are separated, we all moved out (my mom, my sister, my brother, myself, and all 5 of our pets) to get away from his mental illness. but now it’s been almost 2 years and he essentially just lives here without actually paying any bills or funding the household. he does help repair our vehicles and stuff but he reminds us constantly that he thinks that far outweighs what he owes us. he will also occasionally take out the trash and maybe order take out for dinner once a week. anyway him and my mom still argue constantly and are always at the brink of divorce. in one recent argument he says that he doesn’t want to have to see our tampons anymore and it’s inconsiderate to him, so we should “flush them”. to be clear, we DO wrap them up in the trash can, but sometimes our dogs get into it and will leave them torn up on the bathroom floor. i suggested putting the trash can under the sink, but every time i do that either him or my mom move it out and back to next to the toilet. once he said this my mom said absolutely not, so he demanded to ask my sister and i. my sister agreed only because she worries about the dogs (one time my dog swallowed a tampon and got very sick, almost needed surgery) and she worries that he will be petty and refuse to give her rides to work / won’t help her get a car. he frequently will withhold help out of spite. i tried to stay out of it but my mom told him that i will absolutely not be hiding my tampons in my own home. she told him this while i was there so i just admitted that i did in fact feel that way and won’t be doing such a thing. he got mad and called me inconsiderate. it’s been a few weeks since and the dust has settled but i can’t stop thinking of how ridiculous the whole thing felt. are we actually being inconsiderate? idts.