For context they’ve been on and off for 4 years and a half. She saw him the night we were supposed to meet up to go out and went to his and he basically took advantage of her vulnerability and drunkness and slept with her after making her life emotional turmoil; im the one who she comes running to when it all falls apart with him. It feels like im trying to help a drug addict. I basically sent her a huge paragraph saying I love, care, and respect her but that I don’t want to be involved in conversations about him and that if she’s gonna continue to see him that I don’t want to be a part of that because I don’t want any tension between us. A huge paragraph where I expressed my disappointment while being delicate and vulnerable about how I feel and her response is “Okay, that’s not a problem” which just feels so dismissive and offensive. Here I am trying to set boundaries and be honest and a good, real friend, and she dismisses everything I said.