So here’s the deal, me (21F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for just short of 2 years. A few months ago at our university he ran into this girl from his hometown, chatted for a bit, and got her number. He mentioned it to me in passing and obviously I got extremely mad because as a woman, why does he feel the need to get another woman’s number, even if he claims it was innocent? Keep in mind, she’s a conventionally attractive sorority girl so that didn’t make me feel better about the situation. The argument resolved itself and he said he wouldn’t try and contact her or interact with her because he valued our relationship more than anything in the world.

Flash forward to last weekend at a bar crawl. Time was about 12:00-1am-ish and a group of his friends and I are sitting in the back of a bar. No other than the girl whose number he got before pulls up. He immediately stands up to greet her and they hug, their conversation goes on with zero acknowledgement of me sitting right there or any of his other friends. In total the conversation lasted 5 minutes, they hugged three times. His friends then told both of us the next day that the girl was chewing on her straw in a sexy way and was batting her eyelashes at my boyfriend during their conversation.

I’m initially super pissed at him but pushed it off as a conversation for the next day when we were all sober. He blames their interaction on the alcohol (I could tell he wasn’t THAT drunk, likely heavily tipsy rather) and says that he’s bad at reading social cues and didn’t realize that interacting with her again was wrong and didn’t know she was trying to flirt. I on the other hand really don’t know what to do here. Either way it’s extremely disrespectful to me and I can’t decide if I’m being over dramatic about the situation and I should just let it go OR if I should treat this as a dealbreaker. Help!!