Hi. My (22f) boyfriend (22m) and I have been together for a year and two months. It's not a long-distance relationship, but sometimes we don't get to see each other very often, so most of our communication happens through our phones and texting.

Lately, he's been very busy with work and university, and that has made our communication less frequent — we haven't even spent time together outside. Because of this lack of quality time, I’ve told him a few times that it makes me feel upset, and he always says he’s trying and that he doesn’t like the situation either.

This past week felt like hell for me. I have anxiety, and he knows about it. During this week, his way of talking changed — he replied to me less, and when he did, he ignored many of my messages. It made me sad, but I decided not to say anything because I thought maybe he just couldn't focus much due to his busy schedule.

On normal days, he usually wakes up earlier than me and texts me “good morning” first. And when I wake up earlier, I text him first. But this past week, it seemed like he was always waking up late because he didn’t reply to my messages in the morning — I’d wait, but nothing came, so I’d text him first, and only then would he respond a few minutes later.

He always tells me things like, “You’re the first and only thing I think about when I wake up” and “The first thing I do when I open my eyes is check your DM and text you.”

But now I’ve found out that during all those times I thought he was asleep, he was actually awake and scrolling on his phone. He didn’t reply to my messages from the night before for hours, and when I messaged him, he acted like he had just woken up.

I haven’t said anything about this, but now I feel hurt and a bit heartbroken, because when he said those things, I feel like he was lying to me.

Because of his lack of attention this past week, I’ve been having bad dreams and my mind has been imagining all kinds of terrible scenarios about what he might be doing when he’s not with me.

I don’t know what to do. Is this even something I should feel upset about? I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know when I’ll see him next. I also don’t know how to bring it up without hurting him or damaging our relationship. What should I do in this situation? Edit: For example, he woke up at 9, but answers at 11:15 (if I text him gm) I'm not trying to play as a victim, I love him and try to fix everything and wanna figure out what is going on.