I don't know if the title is justified because this story is one hell of a mess. Also, it's my first time posting so I'm sorry for any mistakes. Brace yourself, its gonna be a long ride.

The background is the lengthy part, which I feel shouldn't be skipped. I (25F) had a friend of 5 years, Betty (also 25f) who i was very close with. About 2 years ago, I joined the same office as her after a series of events (I didn't wanna join the office as it was a mid level company and she was dating a senior there (Tom), which i thought would make me the third wheel all the time. I knew Tom before they started dating). After I joined the office, I began liking it as I knew almost everyone already (they were all the seniors- same batch and same circle) and the ones i didn't know beforehand became my friends as well. Betty was on leave when I joined but she knew I was joining, and things were going great. After some time, one of the seniors (Dick) started flirting with me. He was tall, dark and kind of good looking (typical gym guy) but I never saw him as a boyfriend material. So I took it lightly at first. However, as time passed, his hints became more and more suggestive and everyone in the company started teasing us. I was not optimistic about it, but he said he was serious about it and Betty also was hinting that he was good for me.

Things changed when we both got drunk at a new years party, where he kept mumbling how much he loved me and took care of me whole night (I was wasted). Next day i accepted his proposal. He was a really great boyfriend- for about a month. I never had a proper relationship (only situationship- one, many years ago), and was very serious about him. So I was clingy and possessive. He was very clingy for about a month and would always be by my side. He wanted to get physical right after the relationship started, which i didn't want to. But he continuously asked me for it, and I gave in. After that, he started distancing himself. He won't reply to my messages for hours, we will only meet among the office group except when we met in his room to do the deed, after which he would say "We've seen each other the whole day isn't it enough?" ( we were in office the whole day and when meeting after office hours he would always sit with his friends and never with me). One time he insisted on doing without protection, and forced himself on me even when I denied and later bought the morning after pill. I was seriously ill after that and it turned out to be vaginal infection. So I limited our intimacy after that, but he would always be persistent.

He would always mention his ex in front of me and be like she's done so much for me I'll never forget her etc. (side story- He met his ex right before lockdown and started dating in lockdown. Rumor said they broke up because he tried to assault her but he and all his friends said he didn't do it. I believed him because he seemed innocent.) We started fighting almost everyday and it was draining us both down. He kept mentioning his ex, so I mentioned my ex (situationship) about his studies. In one instance three months into our relationship I said that my ex didn't pass the exams he was preparing for ( Dick asked and I said I didn't see ex's name on the list), after which he said I was looking down on my ex and would do the same one day to him. He ignored my message for 3 days straight after that. On the evening of the 3rd day, Tom messaged me asking what was happening between Dick and me, and I simply replied that its a minor fight and will be sorted out soon. I'm a private person and I don't like sharing everything about my relationship ( but here I am). Early morning the next day, Dick said he is breaking up with me and won't reply to my messages. I panicked and went to meet him. When we met he said he "felt nothing" for me and I should leave. I broke down and begged him not to break up. (pathetic!)

Later he asked for a meeting in his room where he said we could continue to be physical without the relationship and maybe he would feel for me again. So I agreed. But deep down I couldn't accept it. I believe physical intimacy is an extension of our emotional intimacy, which we now lacked. But I wanted him so bad I accepted his terms. Every time, I would deny and he would say his feelings for me would arise again if we became physical. I got sick (again) after second time we became intimate and it was vaginal infection again. I became wary after that. But he would always be mentioning sex every time we talked.

We were sent together on a field visit with a group, where he was still persistent about having sex with me. I was starting to give in to him again, when Betty suddenly asked me if I was pregnant before. I was confused and she said that she heard I got sick because I was pregnant. She was talking about the first time I was hospitalized. I never told anyone anything, and that wasn't even true. I was mad and asked Dick about it, who said he let it slip during my hospitalization. I was mad and decided to give up on him completely. So I started distancing myself from him. But he was persistent as ever. He tried to take me to his room and hotels 2-3 times and almost succeeded, but I escaped every time somehow. He had a vehicle and I didn't, so he would say he would drop me but will take me near his room or a hotel. I always made some excuses and cried unless he surrendered the plan. I was still in the same office and didnt want to be enemies because we had to work together, so I never fell out with him. He was still asking for sex everytime we talked or texted, while in office he was "proudly single and looking for a girlfriend". He would say things like " I might have a gf but you'll always be my physical partener" and I was disgusted. So i said no and deleted all his chats. I ignored his messages and ignored him even in the office. He was being super nice and when I avoided him, he bacme angry.

After I constantly rejected him, he finally stopped talking to me, and started cursing me instead. He would talk bad about me in the office, saying things like "I dated a bitch but I'm finally free, a slut almost ruined my life etc." in the contexts everyone knew that he was talking about me. He made sure to make me hear those things and say nasty names. When I didn't respond, he made everyone in the office chose between him and me, and him being the senior, everyone chose him, including Betty. I was isolated, hearing nasty things about me all day long. I was constantly crying, remembering everything he said about me. I couldnt concentrate on anything. One time he almost got me in trouble with the HR because he said I spoke with him ( I didn't, I was talking to another senior)

I hadn't shared this with anyone because I believed it was my fault. I felt very lonely and wanted to end my life, when a miracle happened. Our company was opening a branch office and needed 3 people to operate the branch office. It wasn't official but we heard rumors, so I wanted to snatch this opportunity to escape this hell. When the news was announced, the names included me, Dick and another senior. I panicked, thinking that my life will be hell again. So I took the bold step. I sought out the HR, and told him everything that happened. He already knew Dick was going against me but he didnt know why. When he knew about the full story, he promised he wouldnt let Dick leave the head office and talked to the dept head. Dept head called me and said he noticed I was depressed but he didnt know this happened. He said he would replace Dick. I was relieved.

The drama started after I transfrred. Betty posted cryptic stories, which I didnt see, other friends forwarded saying its for me but I couldnt understand why. She was throwing indirect shades at me and wont say things clearly which made me confused. One day the HR that I told everything asked to meet me and when I reached there, I saw Betty sitting beside him. She had told the HR that I was lying because I never shared anything about it with her. She instead said that I was pestering Dick because I had become sex addict. I was led astray so she chose to distance herself from me. She also said that Dick told I spent all his money (I NEVER TOOK A PENNY FROM HIM). I was shocked to hear that from her. HR wanted to talk to Dick but she pretended to call and said he wasnt available ( I saw her texting Dick the whole time). Still I explained everything to her in detail. She said since I never said anything and Dick shared everything to his group (which includes her bf Tom so she knows), she was believing Dick instead of me. She then said that there was similar rumor before with Dick's ex about the assault but she wasn't sure.

After meeting concluded, she talked to the ex who confirmed that Dick tried to assault her. So, she told HR that the rumor from before was true, but I was lying and had become a sex addict. Later she messaged me saying that Dick didnt explecitly say I spent his money or was a sex addict, but that she heard some things from Tom and assumed them herself. I was very hurt and blocked her. I switched off my phone and went to sleep. 2 days later one of my guy friend (mutual friend of Betty and me) called me and said that I didnt deserve a friend like Betty. When I asked what happened, he said that Betty approached him saying nasty things about me and complaining I had blocked her because I was jealous. She also assumed I had said everything to him and other friends. I didnt, I only showed her last messages with my girl group that Betty was also the part of. They also went no contact with Betty after that, but I heard she was always posting crypric stories about me and some of my seniors said I went too far by blocking her. So, AITAH?