Hi Reddit, My BF (25M) and I (24F) have been together for 3 years. He’s genuinely the best person I’ve had in my life—loyal, kind, and completely committed. But lately, something in me feels off, and I’m not sure if it’s just a phase or if I’m ignoring red flags.

It started with a party at his colleague’s house. I couldn’t attend, but he told me about it afterward. One of his female coworkers (let’s call her "Bich") who’s been hitting on him for a while now, tried to dance closely with him to Tip Tip Barsa Paani. He moved away because he felt uncomfortable, but she kept trying. He eventually danced—not with her, just on his own—and she left him alone after that.

He’s told me before that he’s not comfortable around women who invade his space. I’m the only girl he’s ever dated, and I trust him fully. He’s the definition of a one-woman man. But this girl clearly knows he’s taken and keeps pushing boundaries.

A few days later, I met his colleagues at another party, and she was there too. I felt out of place because of their inside jokes, and she kept inserting herself between me and him, walking with him and trying to exclude me. He tried to include me, but there's only so much you can do in real-time.

Then it started raining, and she said to him, “Let’s go to the end of the shed and enjoy the rain.” I tagged along. She then starts singing Tip Tip Barsa Paani again (seriously?), touching his arm, patting his cheeks, and complimenting his dance moves—while standing way too close. He looked uncomfortable, but didn’t move.

And to top it off, later that evening, she suddenly took a selfie with him—deliberately leaving me out of the frame, even though I was right beside her.

That night, I felt off. I know he wouldn’t cheat, but I couldn’t shake it. I didn’t confront him directly—just texted jokingly, “I think bich likes you 😂😂.” He laughed it off, saying everyone likes him, and I laughed too. But since then, I’ve felt distant. I don’t feel like saying “I love you” or texting him like I used to.

I know he’s loyal. I know he was uncomfortable. I know he’s just too nice to be rude. And we are even planning to tell about our relationship to our parents and get married in 1.5-2 yrs.

But why does it still hurt? Why do I feel so emotionally detached all of a sudden? Am I overthinking? What do i do? 😭