📝 AITAH for breaking contacts with my friends aka cousins??

By applecidervinegar8 • Score: 2 • April 6, 2025 7:12 AM


Hi. The persons I'm going to talk about are my cousin's but we've been great frds since diapers. Two of them were female and one were male. Let's name them, Tally, Lily and Sam. (Tally and lily will be those two female cousin frds of mine and Sam will be the male one)

Me, Tally and Sam basically lived together in different apartments and lily lived a bit far from us. No I am not directly cousins with lily as lily is officially Tally and Sam's cousin but we four bonded together really well. I've always loved them and cherished them so much that sometimes I'd cancel plans just to hangout with them. But I did notice tally and Sam giving more attention to lily whenever she came over which is fine but I was a little jealous. This all started when I became mature, when I grew older. I finally realised how big of a shit tally, Sam and lily's family were.

One time when I went over to tally and Sam's place and saw them cleaning their house and according to my countries tradition, u cannot tell your guest to do the work or help them as it looks bad and disrespectful. So I went over towards the couch and sat on it when tally and Sam's mother (yes they're siblings) came over to me and told me to give her a hand. I didn't declined because I was too young to even understand what was happening so I agreed and started cleaning their floor. Tally tried to stop her mom but their mother said not to say anything and to js let me do the chores. I cleaned their house and came back home and told my parents what happened, my parents were shocked and almost speechless after hearing what happened. I was confused then they gave me a 10 min lesson about why I shouldn't do the chores or others house. (But tbh I didn't had any problem with cleaning their house or helping in their chores, what really hit me after all these years were. Tally and Sam's mom trying to use me just to get the work done.) many more incidents happened when they used me js to clean their house or to do the chores. Sometimes I went to hangout with them so often that one-time tally kicked me out of her house. Which hurt me deeply and till this day I have trauma about what happened years ago.

Many years passed and I stopped visiting their place but we still lived at the same building. We met at family events, etc.

I heard a news from my grandmother that Lily will be shifting next to us. Next to our apartment, first I was really happy and excited because I don't have that many cousin frds. The ones I have are either younger than me or way older than me so I never really bonded with someone besides Tally, Sam and lily.

I have a bad past with lily as well, she blocked me in Facebook in 2021 from her main acc but I still had access to her mother's FB ACC and we talked not very often. Just Simple hi hellos and how are we holding up, that's it! The fact that I once gave lily an expensive birthday present and she didn't even wish me on my birthday!! Which I'm not making a big deal out of cause people can be busy and I understand but that bitch had the audacity to say sorry I forgot after I messaged her few months after my birthday. Like unbelievable, stop playing the victim card and acting like u forgot when u didn't really forgot and js didn't wanted to wish me a happy birthday. I never really understood her harsh behaviour towards me. I always thought she was cool and a nice buddy to hang out with but who knows what she has been thinking in her mind.

So when I got the news that Lily and I will now be neighbours, I was tbh so happy because I wanted to forget the old days and be frds again. I'll be lying if I say I didn't miss her!! Few days before lily and her family shifted to our building, i send her a message in her mother's acc saying, "when are you coming?, are you alright?, I was very happy to hear you moving in next to us, etc" BUTTTTTT SHE right away blocked me and I'm still not unblocked. First I thought my messenger or wtv was glitching but when I checked on other phones that her ACC was visible it all became clear to me. I have never been so angry and especially sad. I really thought she was willing to bond with me again! Whatever, I started ignoring her and as well as her family ever since they moved in with us. I had only one interaction with her on the stairs of our building which was really nothing really serious.

My family has been forcing me to go to tally and Sam's place in family reunions or like family events or on festivals but I really don't have the strength nor the mindset to face what I faced years ago. I am so embarrassed to even tell my family what really happened between us four and how we four (tally, Sam, me and lily) separated because when I was young I didn't cared for anyone other than them, I spend a lot of my own saved money to buy them gifts. Idk why I am suddenly the bad guy now that I broke contact but I hope I never bond with them ever again tho I miss them deeply!!

Thank you for reading and js to remind all of you, I am a teenager and Tally and Lily are few years older than me but Sam and I are the same age. This all happened when we were kids but lily blocking me happened recently and I wish to take revenge.

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