I’m 17f and that friend lets call her Julie. For context, this goes way back in 7th grade. I’d meet her through a friend who was also Julie’s bsf. And Julie like I remember then was this sweet innocence girl. Who didn’t even cuss and was so good in academics. Whereas me and my friends we may sound like a bad influence but hear me out, we were in our rebellious phase where trying alcohol or smoking was a big deal. And Julie being my new friend I had problem opening up to her but when I did I trusted her a lot. So once we were all trying a vape in the school washroom and I’d done it before so it was thrilling to do in the school washroom. I remember telling her just because we are trying it you don’t have to it’s okay you shouldn’t do it. She wasn’t exposed to alcohol or smoking, while me and my friends fairly were. Still she was like “no no, I want to,” I’d ask if she’s sure and all she was adamant and there she took her first puff. I remember so clearly she wanted to cry after that cause she felt horrible. And I promised we won’t bring this up nor ever do it again ourselves.

Now starting 8th grade, things had changed and I was definitely more closer to Julie. So now this girl tells me shes addicted to vaping. And I’ll be honest I do smoke but it’s very occasionally. So I was caught a bit of guard yk scared that we were the reason that influenced this and I got so guilty. But she tells me her cousin had gotten her hooked that took me off the edge still I felt bad. Now Julie had started to kind of fit in. We were a massive group of friends yk the type which had a fixed lunch table, teachers knew our friends and the things we were known for. We weren’t the rebellious ones just regular school kids who loved doing thrilling stuff and mainly cause we’ve all been friends since childhood. We were a group of 14 kids. She’d change drastically like big change, her bsf and her were doing things that definitely didn’t sound like Julie. One day we were at a friends birthday and she was making TikTok’s with everyone but the birthday girl and that made her upset and feel left out so a friend told her like “you should include her too it’s her birthday it’ll be rude” and Julie said she understood and stopped. Now this girl she went outside and started CRYING? Like girl what are you even crying for?!!! The craziest thing is, SHE STARTED VICTIMISING HERSELF AND EVERYONE BLAMED THE BIRTHDAY GIRL FOR IT!!!! She said “I’m the bad guy, for making TikTok’s for her” like bro💀💀 Next day in school all of us pissed with a motive to fix this we ended up fighting. Her BSF also my friend and I fought like it was bad. But soon it was all cleared up. Thank goodness. But since then it was clear she’d change and we’d distance ourselves a bit. Concluding 8th grade she had a crush on our friend (Austin) which she soon started dating right after breaking up with her ex. The thing is Austin was her exes’ friend at that time. She’d also fake telling stories that her ex would force her into doing stuff which we found out was fake through screenshots and she did it for attention.

9th grade: look, for me friendships are above me id do anything I’ve baked a cake for her and I’ve done god knows what all for her and I never expected anything back but wanted her to be grateful. Things were normal in 9th we were her friends and she was ours, she dated austin and everything was chill. Now problem started around thanks giving. When Austin, my friend since KG told me “bro she bitches about you and hates you a lot,” now I really contemplated everything. I couldn’t understand what was right what was wrong. But didn’t give much thought, cause I’d probably done something which pissed her off so I kept quiet. Then again he told me the same thing now I was getting skeptical so then I asked her and she denied I was relieved. Then I got fucking screenshots of not only bitching about me but the ENTIRE friend group and this time she was in Dubai. So all I did was collectively send screenshots of everything she said about us. This girl now made a group sent a voice note of crying and then she started victimising herself “I thought you guys were bitching about me that’s why I did that and you guys forced me to do so,” and we were still cold with her for a while but forgave her with a warning. The thing is, we don’t mind bitching; none of us do, staying in a big group has taught us that everyone won’t find your things right and it’s natural to bitch about them but here’s the thing we’ve been friends since KG all of us, when we wanna bitch about eachother we straight up say it to eachother with no hard feelings. So we warned her saying if you gotta problem tell us straight up and forgave her cause again she was our friends gf too. And she was such a manipulator, imagine after pulling sm shit and being a massive red flag we still forgave her cause that’s the impact she had on us and we love as friends we give everything. So around thanksgiving, Austin complained how she didn’t talk to him, so we went through their chats (ik we shouldn’t have but he insisted we see it) that’s what we did. Looking at them shocked me completely she was being toxic and manipulative. The craziest this is she forced Austin into getting a BJ when he clearly wasn’t comfortable. We spoke to her about this she said he deserves it cause he didn’t wish her good morning like we all know he sleeps till noon!!! Now around the same time I’d started dating my ex who she had a crush on in 5th grade, I still asked her if it’s alright she was so chill with it played it off. Then Austin again told me she hated me for doing that. I didn’t do anything still. But one day austin finally decided he wants to break up now us girls still being friends with her we decided not to pick sides but rather let them do it. We decided whoever still continues to talk to us will be our friend. Austin did and she didn’t. 9th ends.

10th grade: her bsf(let’s call her Allie), our good friend had decided to give up her friendship with us to stay with her cause Julie insisted to Allie that she won’t talk to us since we humiliated her by picking sides and throwing her friendship away. By now we were so done with her shit she should be grateful we didn’t make it messy like the way we would like to do it.
So during the summer I saw a snap of her where she sneaked out with my ex, her sisters ex, her bsf’s ex, her ex-friends ex. All of the exes. At that point we realised how low she’d fallen. So after the break up with Austin, she called Rachel, Austin’s ex who was also this manwhore Jake guys bsf at the time. So she use to bitch about Austin with Rachel while she didn’t care cause they dated back in 5th grade💀Rachel hated her but still through that Jake met Julie and then she got with Austin’s ex bsf Jake. He’s this man whore disgusting creature. At that point Allie stopped hanging out with her. But mainly cause she hung out with Samuel, my friends’ ex who cheated on her and gave Allie rape threats. And when asked why? Cause she wanted to vape she said. This chick now pissed me off bad. Not only did she get out of our lives but broke several of our friendships and still kept dragging us into everything.
Allie came to us we became friends again and made the ultimate plan. We forced her To talk to us cause she owed us an explanation for everything she did. Allie went fully ballistic like crazy yelling and me and bsf were gonna take chances yelling at her cause she’d done us wrong she also Spread mad rumours about us. Things were said, slut shaming happened.

Then a week later idk what happened but I went up to her and yelled at her for all the time she hurt me. That bitch after entitled the entire time like she didn’t regret anything. I fully YELLED at her for an hour straight while in SCHOOL. Thank lord hands weren’t used. So she filed a complaint against me in school office and her mom was called. Her mom asked “I don’t wanna deal with school crap say whatever you kids wanna do right now.”

I did just that.
I didn’t even censor my language for her mom and the thing is her mom didn’t know shit about anything she did. She was deepp shit. I loved it.

To conclude with everything; she wasn’t that same sweet girl who cried when she smoked, instead she made it her whole personality. She wasn’t my friend I could rely on. She wasn’t the girl who was entitled. I was hurt badly cause I considered my friendship with her way above, still forgave her so many times only for her to be fucking ungrateful?! I baked for her, I missed my family trip to fucking Hawaii to attend her bday and make the cake. And god knows what else I did so that I could see a smile on her face. It still hurts till this date but I’d never change how things ended up. Best thing is I haven’t seen her since! Amitah for what I did?