As of right now, I haven't broken up with him yet but I'm debating it.

I currently make just over £160,000 but I've been offered a huge promotion as the manager a few positions above got demoted. I was offered her position with a salary of £480,000, this role would mean I would have to work away in various places for up to 3 months at a time, twice a year, and occasionally in office when I'm home based.

By no means do we NEED this money, my boyfriend has a full time job as a car mechanic which has always been his dream job, he makes a good amount of money and together we're more than comfortable with our money. I have always pictured living in a beautiful big farm house with 3 children, I grew up dirt broke, having to go without essentials so achieving this goal is so big for me and I would love to have more money to put towards my dreams.

Now my husband's issue is that we already have enough money and he doesn't want to go that long without me. I 100% empathised with him but on that salary he can come with me, I am fully paid for so we'd only be paying for him, whether he stayed for the whole time or only came for 1-2 months, it would be affordable.

I sat him down and had the conversation last week, the night after the interview when I was offered the position. He immediately shut it down barely letting me explain and stormed out, two days later I tried to bring it up at dinner, suggesting he come with me and he briefly mentioned his mother emasculating him - she has extreme traditional opinions when it comes to relationships. I feel like he may feel embarrassed (?) that I make nearly 4x more than him (would be like 12x if I accept.) But then he claimed I had no respect for him and I already make more money than most people, I'm greedy for money and need to "stop pushing the limits and stay in my lane" before calling his mom and said he's staying the night at hers and he's "not eating off the plate of a greedy jerk".

He's not replying to any of my calls or texts and hasn't been home since Monday last week. I don't want to get anyone involved in our relationship - atleast not people we know as I feel he may just be embarrassed? I feel like he's being a bit childish and petty. I need some unbiased advice, even if I am in the wrong.