my boyfriend and i live together and he has three kids. part of my role has been to keep the house clean, which i’ve done without complaint. but i’ve told him many times that it feels disrespectful when his kids constantly undo my work, leave messes behind, and expect me to clean up after them without any accountability. we’ve fought about this repeatedly. he calls me lazy, even though i deep clean weekly, do all their laundry, and manage most of the household. one of his kids is 18, dropped out of school, doesn’t work, and constantly asks him for money. the 16-year-old helps a little, but overall, there’s no structure or discipline, and my boyfriend refuses to make them clean up after themselves. i recently decided to take a step back for one week to see what would happen. i cleaned everything first, did all the laundry, and then stopped. within six days, the house became a mess again. none of them lifted a finger. yet somehow, i’m always the one blamed. this morning, my boyfriend woke me up by yelling and comparing me to other women because the house wasn’t clean. that was the final straw. i decided to break up with him. it’s not just about the cleaning. it’s about the lack of respect. i’m treated like the help, not like a partner. i’ve taken on the role of a wife and even a full-time mom to his youngest, but nothing i do is ever enough. when i say i want a job, he tells me i’m already “working for him” and suggests i’ll be his assistant once he goes back to work, which, ironically, i already am. i’m exhausted from repeating myself, from having no support, and from being made to feel like the problem when i’m just trying to be respected. so, am i the a**hole for walking away?