Background : I, 33F and my partner, let's call him Bob, 35M, have been together since university. We had a regular immature relationship as we were both new to dating and made lots of mistakes. We were okay for the first year but things started going badly after he had some trouble at home he didn't know how to deal with. Combine that with me processing my own traumatic home life (I was living alone for over a year when we met so I had dealt with a fair amount of stuff)... Basically, we started off okay, both made mistakes and then we broke up when it got really toxic. We went our separate ways, he stayed in our home country and I travelled as a solo traveller, working and living in different countries. We went no contact. After a few months my friends convinced me to get Instagram to document my travels and we started following each other but we didn't talk. When I returned to our hometown (over a year and a half after our break up), he made contact and we spoke about everything, it was pleasant. The next year we ended up dating again but we went all in and moved to a different country and started working and living together, it was okay but a lot of the issues of the past came up. We held on because we genuinely wanted to be together but didn't know how. Then COVID happened and we spent 2020 with a therapist working out our issues and our relationship had never been better. We spent a few years applying what we had learned etc, working from home was easy and it really helped. In 2022 we ended up moving again and found ourselves with a conflicting work schedule. Bob worked M-F and I work W-S. That means Bob and I never have the same day off!!! I get to finish early on a Sunday and I usually rush home so we can spend the evening and nights together.

SO LEADING UP TO THE BREAKUP: We don't get to spend much time together so we've had to create time. On a Monday or Tuesday I would go to his work and we'd have lunch during. One day his manager was around (also usually out the office for lunch) and I walked him back to his office and he popped into the bathroom while his manager and I made small talk. The manager informed me that Bob was offered a schedule change once they were aware of our setup but Bob refused! They offered to let him work Tuesday - Saturday allowing us a Monday together. I asked Bob about it after and he simply said he doesn't want to work on a Saturday and that's the end of it. So for over 1.5 years we've just settled on spending Sunday afternoons together and the very occasional snow day.

Fast forward to the past few months and Bob, without any kind of heads-up/discussion decided to start playing football on a.... Sunday afternoon. It was a big slap in the face. That's our only time together. He did even hesitate, he just announced that it is what he'll be doing. I couldn't believe it. I've expressed my unhappiness. The most recent public holiday fell a few days after my birthday (we both worked so we did dinner after work at a restaurant instead of eating at home, that's it). I figured we'd spend the whole day together on the public holiday until he announced that he wants to play football. I broke up with him. Also, he has a trip coming up and he'll be gone to a different country for a few weeks... So I really thought I'd be a priority. AITA? How much more patient can I be?!