For context, my boyfriend (24M) and I (22 F) have been dating for three months. We started talking, and eventually he asked me out. He was living with his religious grandmother, and long story short, she kicked him out because he brought me to her house. Even though she said it was okay for me to visit. He ended up in clinics because his grandmother's controlling behaviour was spiking his blood pressure, and I was there for it all. Honestly, it felt like a lot for me to go through in what's supposed to be the "honeymoon phase"; it felt like a rollercoaster. I'm in college right now, and the amount of stuff I went through with him already left me feeling drained. I said I'd come and clean his studio apartment before he moved in, but I just felt so exhausted. I told him I won't be able to, but I said it 5 days before he had to move because I didn't want to do it the day before. I felt like an asshole but I felt like I had enough on my plate right now and I feel emotionally drained sometimes. He said he was disappointed and he understands that things can happen, and he doesn't want to overwork or make me feel like I'm overextending myself, but he said I need to be 100% sure before I make a decision next time. We argued last night, and now we're not talking because I was so irritated with him. Am I the asshole?