I lost my husband 5 years ago. We had 2 sons before we married and they have my maiden name - because we weren’t legally married at the time and our state has specific laws about naming children in and out of wedlock. After marriage I hyphenated my name and we went on went with our lives. If you don’t know, having a hyphenated name is a huge hassle. I went to court on Tuesday and received a court order to drop the hyphen and revert solely to my maiden name (the name our sons have). I changed my name on social media and my in-laws pretty much immediately blew up my phone asking why. They are NOT happy with my decision, saying it’s disrespectful to my late husband’s memory to drop his name. That if I was going to change any name, I should have changed the boy’s names. I actually asked the boys if that’s what they wanted to do before I filed to change my name and they both said no because they are too old now and their dad never cared. (He really didn’t. I asked him when we got married). I want to be sympathetic to my in-laws because I know how much I cling to every remaining memory of him as well. But in another way I feel like this was my decision to make because this particular issue has been one of incredible inconvenience in our lives. So, AITAH for changing my name and dropping the hyphen of my late husband’s name?