Me (26F ) and my husband Marco (25M) are together for 2 years almost. I have 2 kids from my previous marriage (girl 5yo and boy 3yo). Both of us has jobs, and at that time when we started dating was living with our parents. I bought house for me and my kids, but that house needed some renovation. I have brother (20yo) and sister (16). My husband have two sisters, Marie (29, married) and Mila (32, single mother). Mila have son, he is 12yo. She and her son lives with my husband and their parents at that time when we started dating.

Mila is person who have been diagnosed with depression after divorce, but she recovered and started dating some guy, let's call him Tim. She moved in with him, but her son was lefted out. He stayed with his grandparents, then he moved to his dad, sometimes he would be there with his mom. He's great kid, and of course isn't his fault that he's parents are like that. His dad is alcoholic, and his mother wasn't taking care of him like normal mom would since 1st day, that will my mother in law do.

My husband and I, both of us have job, I have 2. We have monthly income 2000€ together. My in laws wanted me and my kids to move in with them, so we can be together constantly. My mother in law also have a job, salary is 600€, and that isn't enough to cover up bills, because my father in law doesn't have any monthly income. We moved in, but struggling to save up for renovations.

My husband get fired, so for 2 months we have only my (1200) and my mom il income. That was enough, but we couldn't save for our house. But we also have one "problem". My mother in law started to give half of her salary to her daughter, Mila, but her son is more with us then with Mila. And also we pay for his school lunch, trainings... Mila's boyfriend has a job, but he doesn't want to pay anything for her kid. Mila because of her's previous condition thinks that she doesn't need to work or anything. And of course she doesn't, when we can take care of her and her kid. I'm sarcastic.

It was around Christmas and we bought kids presents and we also included her son. He was with us, my husband all his free time spent with my kids and her. I found out that I'm pregnant, so I took maturity leave (from start of my pregnancy till my baby turns 2). I was more at home. Whenever Mila come, she always talks about where she and her boyfriend been (restaurants, cities, hotels). She never brings her kid with her. But wherever Marco and I go, we ask him to go with us and never excluding him. She also every time needs to say how I need to be happy because Marco is perfect husband. He is really. But, of course she needs to add that he accepts my children and taking care of them and me (never mind that at that time, all of us depend on my salary).

On Christmas Eve, my in laws called both of their daughters to dinner. Marco founded job at that time, so Marie and I started conversation about his job, and how we can now renovate our house. But than Mila jumped in and said to my "Oh it's easy for you, my brother works for you and your kids, now you can do nothing. Oh, you already did.". Never mind that her kid sleeps in worm because of me, eat properly food, also because of me, get ride to and from school, guess what? Because of me. I tried to ignore her, but she was poking me on that way. When everyone gets home, my husband said that she doing that because she's jealous. Of what? Because Marco accepted my kids, and Tim didn't her? Why would she be with him if she want to be with her child? What is that what changed her mind and made her to start being caring about her child?

When some times went by, I given birth, born beautiful baby boy. It was C section and hurting as hell. I needed help to walk, sit, for everything. Marco was there and we made deal that we don't want any visit till I feel better. I was emotional, constantly crying about everything. When we came home, all I wanted was to hug my kids, kiss them and be all alone with my family. After 5,6 HOURS doorbell rings. It was Mila. I thought maybe she will be with her parents, but no. She goes directly to baby's room, took him and started kissing him. She kissed his forehead, nose and then "accidentally " kissed him in mouth. I grabbed my baby and started yelling at her. How dare she is? Who thinks she is? She didn't even ask me to take him or kiss him. He was so little and gentle, all I was needed is to get him sick. But people like her made me sick. Then fight started. How I dare to take baby from her? That's her brother blood, blah, blah... It was really stressful, especially for the first day from hospital. I tell her to get out of that room and I don't want to see her near my kids or me. My husband and mother in law took my side, but my father in law took her's with excuse that she has very rough past. I never gets so excited for something, but then I was so excited for our house getting done. All I wanted is to run away from that house, because she can come whenever she wants because of her parents. Month after that, we moved into our house. I've got a call from my mother in law. Mila tried to convince her to make me feel sorry because everything, especially because her kid now can't see his uncle. She wants to talk to me and try to make things up. But she wasn't sorry, she have something else on her mind. All she wanted is to take her kid to stay with us, because her mom now can't (she has some health problems). When I said that I don't want to do that and I can't. She called me a-hole and selfish. My husband heard everything, and took my side. But he break contact with her.

From that day, till now (6months) shedidn't once called or asked for baby. I have brother and sister, last thing I wanted is to lost contact with them, so I insisted that my husband give her another chance. My husband didn't wanted, because he was feed up with everything that she did to him. Her son comes to us sometimes to visit, but not for too long. I'm sorry for him, but I can't do anything to make him better living conditions. He's now late for school every day or doesn't go, because his mom wake up at 1pm. He stays hungry when he gets home from school till evening, and her boyfriend doesn't want to pay bigger electricity bill for heating his room. So my husband gets an idea to adopt him, but made Mila pay for alimony. Is he right? And am I the A-hole for making this big fight between brother and sister?