I (29 M) don’t often game anymore, but I play one particular game on and off.

I started speaking to someone regularly that I met about 4 months ago because they added me and they would perpetually invite me to go to games non stop.

Very early on into knowing them, I didn’t even know that they were female. They were totally anonymous and they asked me my age, to which I was honest and told them even though I don’t usually exchange personal information with people online.

The next time I started the game, they left me a message asking me to add them on discord and IG and they figured since they play with me regularly it would be a better way for them to let me know when they’re online on the game.

So I did. After a couple weeks I figured I would ask them about themselves even though I met them strictly through gaming. I never wanted to be intrusive so I don’t usually ask people, nor am I usually social online.

They were on edge and promised me not to leave them if they told me. I told them just to tell me and they told me they are 18.

I responded I guess it’s fine since we both just play a competitive game and initiated those boundaries straight away that it was strictly platonic for me.

I soon came to realise that the person in question was in a lesbian relationship in real life and I felt more comfortable knowing that because it would remain completely platonic.

A couple weeks later, they start telling me that they have problems in their relationship and are thinking about leaving their partner.

I responded to them with a word of encouraging advice to stay together and work through it and that I’m not one to come in between their relationship because I’m a third party.

As soon as they told me this, as the days went on, the person in question would overstep boundaries and indirectly try to push borderline sexual and flirtatious chat, which she claimed was nothing more than innocent.

At this point, I reiterated my boundaries which she agreed to and chose to not respect them a second time therefore I told her I don’t think that we should speak anymore, especially outside the confounds of the game as I didn’t intend to become so personal with someone.

She accepted it and I removed her on all social medias only to wake up to endless spam begging to re-add her and that she was sorry.

This spam went on for an entire 20 hours. After blocking accounts, she would make knew ones telling me to read her bio which were filled with apology messages.

I accepted just to tell her that I really didn’t want to talk anymore because I found the dynamic she was pushing very weird and that I felt sorry for her girlfriend.

She begged me not to remove her and said for the past 24 hours she had been crying over the fact I just blocked her everywhere.

I made my boundaries clear again and told her that I didn’t like where she was trying to take the chats. She claimed that it was just banter, and I’m not the only one she speaks to like that, and that her girlfriend is aware of how she speaks to others. She said that I was her favourite person and she doesn’t know why, but the fact I disappeared destroyed her.

I said ok, fair enough and continued to game. She invited her girlfriend into said game as well and I could see that she was uncomfortable with the dynamic, but weirdly her girlfriend was pushing to get to know me as well.

Guilt started to hit me from having the burden of someone who is clearly mentally ill and attached to me constantly spamming me.

It came to a point where I couldn’t go to sleep early because they thought I was ignoring them and would perpetually spam asking why I’m ignoring them.

I told them one last time that I don’t think we should talk anymore and removed them everywhere. I’ve had to delete my social medias because they are adding me everywhere. They even found other socials that I did not exchange with them in the first place.

I outlined to them that I feel like the dynamic became weird when they pushed it into a dynamic that shouldn’t exist, especially when I’m not reciprocating it, and overall I just feel too old to game or relate with them.

I received a message from the girlfriend saying that the person in question is having a mental break down, is refusing to eat and is threatening suicide and I’m an asshole for blocking her everywhere without good reason.

I highlighted my reasons for blocking her and the main reason is because she is 18, and the other is the fact she has highlighted that she has had urges to cheat, but is self aware and holds herself back and clearly pushes boundaries with me which I don’t want nor reciprocate. She started to often send me flirty and sexual chats and then immediately delete them before I could open the chat, but I would see them on my phone Lock Screen and confront her.

I feel really bad because I’m burdened with the fact this girl has became overly attached to me over a short space of time of barely knowing me and clearly has mental health issues.

She is still blocked. But now I cannot have social media because of it, and in this current climate it would not sit well with people.

To be clear, I not once did reciprocate flirtatious or sexual text. She started pushing these boundaries after 4 months for a week, which I told her to stop right away. When she re-added me, she even said “block me the first instance I say anything like this, please just relax and don’t remove me again, please I can’t lose you”.

She did, so I did.

My biggest mistake was sharing my name to an at the time anonymous person who I thought was chill, who then exchanged her name with me.

But I can’t help but feel like an asshole either. Do I keep her blocked? Is there any reason to continue this? What should my first course of action be?

It’s becoming harassment at this point.