My friend recently messaged me personally that she was dating a guy and I was happy for her because I always knew she wanted to be in a relationship ship, but my happiness disappeared when I realised she was dating the guy who used to treat me horribly all through out the years I’ve known him. Now, she knew about the things he did to me because she messaged me a couple months prior asking me why I had such a hatred for him (we all hang out in a group since the guy I hate if close friends with another friend of mine) and I told her the truth which was such a big deal because I have never opened up to someone like that before. I won’t get into too much detail but the words he said to me has really altered the way I view myself and the reason why I feel uncomfortable when guys show romantic interest in me. So when I received the message that she was dating him, I honestly cried a little bit because how can you date a guy who has treated one of your closest friends like shit, and she was messaging about how she knows why I hate him and she knows I feel uncomfortable when we hang out as a group with him. I obviously didn’t want to make her feel like shit and told her I was supportive of her relationship with him and it was childish of me to hate him, and she seemed more relaxed after it happened. As all of this was happening in my head I’m just think ‘I would never in a million years do this, date a guy who treated my friend, another women like shit’ and honestly that’s when I began to doubt our friendship. Now I understand that people tend to prioritise their romantic relationships more than their friendships but for someone who I used to message everyday just about random shit to only receiving dry responds to my messages, I’m beginning to feel unwanted or just burnt out. It seems like all my friends (those in the same group as the guy) are just ignoring me and actively picking him over me, which is funny because my friends have always hated pick me girls. So much more has happened but I’m too tired to write it down, I’ve given myself an ultimatum for the next two weeks that if I don’t receive a message from them I’m officially ending my friendship with all of them. I know I sound selfish, insecure and childish but I can’t handle this betrayal and it hurts even more ending a friendship over a guy. So please tell me, am I wrong for doing this or is just better for me to speak with her or just let time pass?