(English is not my native language) Me (31M) and my bf (28M) have been together in an open relationship for a little over two years. I am a verse queen and he’s verse top.

In my previous relationship, which initially was monogamous but eventually became open, I was more often topping than bottoming. Hence, my bottoming skills became a little rusty after a while.

Fast forward to this relationship. He told me he was verse, but the more we had sex, the more evident it became that I would have to be the bottom of the relationship. I had to train myself a little bit cause at one point I had an anal fissure.

After a while I started to feel very confident about bottoming and now I really enjoy it. However, occasionally I would like to top my current bf.

I have mentioned this to him but he always says that he is not ready to bottom yet. Mind, in the whole relationship, I have only topped him once.

One of the things that comes up a lot in conversation with other people is how much of a verse he is. As I mentioned before, we are in an open relationship, and some of the jokes he makes are related to him taking big dicks or him being more submissive when it comes to older men. We had a threesome once and when I said my bf was 99% top and 1% bottom, he immediately corrected me and said he is 75% and 25% top/bottom (top to bottom ratio if you will)

I don’t mind about the conversation on sex with other people, or so I thought. The day before yesterday he went out to meet with a friend and before he went out he douched. I was feeling a certain type of way and the next day I asked him if he bottomed with this guy, to which he replied yes.

At that point I became quiet and started to feel sad about it. This is a guy that he sees regularly and his Grindr bio says Dom top. I tried to bring this up to him, asking him why he prefers bottoming with other people and not with me. He says he didn’t appreciate me meddling in his relationship with other guys and that he doesn’t feel ready to bottom. He said tI was investigating his whole day just to find out if he bottomed or not. I then started crying and the whole conversation escalated. I feel somehow bad because I don’t want to push him to do something he’s not comfortable with, and now I feel a certain way about topping him. I don’t want to feel entitled to his sex.

Am I the asshole for reacting like this to him bottoming to other guys?