There is a significant amount of backstory in context to this, but I will try to keep it brief with the relevant details. The other day, a girl I have been seeing picked this bar a block away from the area I have been talking to her about investing in some multifamily real estate so that she could show me the area that would be walking distance from my investment. I got there before her, but when I walked in my ex-girlfriend was there, who I went through a break up with in September, but had been off and on trying to make it work up until about February. That relationship was by far the most toxic situation I have ever dealt with, it involves several police involved, incidents, dangerous interactions with a guy she dated before me, and it’s basically just still an emotionally charged situation. As soon as I saw her, I called the girl. I’m seeing now and told her that we should meet somewhere else, and while this was happening, my ex pulled out her phone and started obnoxiously recording me clearly making a statement that she was claiming I was stalking her and based on her past behavior, it was more of a statement to me that she was gathering evidence that could be used against me. A couple months ago when things ended, we met with a couples therapist to referee a mutually agreeable situation where we both agreed that the conditions for peace and having no contact or that she provide her insurance information so that I could resolve damage she did to my mom‘s car as well as her commitment to not manufacturer situations that involve me that would require me to be in touch with her. That second condition was brought up because she has been instigating drama in a private Facebook group by talking about me to the point where people I don’t know are messaging me and her ex-boyfriend has been calling me nonstop threatening to hurt me and he has even involve the police so I have detectives calling me. My view is that she is viewing and provoking and manufacturing situations that are constantly affecting my life and forcing me to waste tons of time and energy, dealing with issues unnecessarily because she pretends she has no role in what I’m dealing with. Anyway, I told her that I was changing my plans and leaving, but asked her to stop creating drama, specifically telling her to stop filming me and threatening me and intimidating me, and I reminded her that I have offered to spend thousands of dollars of my own money to pay for damage to my mom’s car that she caused because she was uncooperative and it wasn’t worth my energy to involve the police and approach the situation as a hit-and-run. She could have just appreciated the gesture and let me leave peacefully, but instead she continued to fill me and told the staff that she felt uncomfortable and that I was stalking her. Because of this, I felt like if you put me in a situation where I had no choice, but to ensure there was a record of the interaction and because her car was in the parking lot, I wanted to ensure the police had documentation of the damage in order to Protect myself because a lot of issues have risen from trying to navigate this car accident resolution with her. She has continued to dodge accountability for the damage she caused by claiming that I am harassing her every time i’ve had to interact with her to resolve the insurance issue. For example, the insurance adjuster needed to see her car, but when we arrived, she pretended like she didn’t know what I was talking about, that she didn’t have any involvement in it and that I was making up the situation to harass her. All her friends and family are under the impression that I am a psycho and will not leave her alone, reality is she will text me and invite me over have me bring her lunch and even agreed with our therapist to provide her insurance information so that I didn’t have to go through this hassle of compelling her to provide it or getting it from law-enforcement. I don’t understand how I am expected to navigate this, my perspective is that I want nothing to do with her however, she continuously forces me to have to interact with her, and all I am asking is that she cooperate in some of these issues that put me at risk so that there is no reason to interact. I don’t want anything to do with her and I have a new girlfriend that wants nothing to do with it, but I feel like I am forced to do things like have a police officer come document the car damage because she is making me look like a liar and using the threat of a restraining order to get sympathy from her friends and discredit me so she can avoid accepting any responsibility and paint herself as a victim. AITAH for taking actions that protect myself by supporting the truth? How should I navigate this? My people keep saying to just ignore her, and I would love to, but again that’s not easy to do when I am constantly putting out fires that only exist because she refuses to participate and communicate regarding active issues that are very damaging and threatening. I don’t want to deal with any of this, but I feel like I’ve been put into a position where I have to properly defend myself and her refusal to cooperate and communicate her intentions is leaving me with no choice but to go to extremes to ensure I have evidence supporting the narrative that I’m not stalking or harassing her but simply trying to resolve issues that she happens to be involved in.