I'm 19F and my boyfriend (20M) and we have been together since we were both 16 (same birth year). I love him deeply, and we’ve grown a lot together, especially when it comes to communication and sex. He's my first for everything, and I’m his first too.

The problem is, I feel like I'm missing out on sexual exploration—particularly when it comes to non-penetrative stuff. He’s never been big on giving head, fingering, or any kind of foreplay that isn’t just leading up to sex. I’ve brought it up several times, and every time, it kind of feels like I’m asking for too much, or like it’s just a chore to him. It makes me feel like crap, especially when I hear other women talk about their experiences and how fulfilling and passionate they sound.

It’s frustrating because we’ve had some really good communication when it comes to sex overall. We’ve explored what we like during intercourse and that part of our sex life has really improved. So I don’t understand why this part is so different—why the communication just doesn’t land the same way.

And just to be clear, I’ve asked him if something’s wrong—like if I smell or taste bad or if he’s uncomfortable with it—and he always says no, that he enjoys it. And when he does do it (rarely), I can tell he’s not faking. He’s a terrible liar and it’s obvious when he’s not being honest, so I believe him when he says he’s fine with it. But for whatever reason, it’s still not consistent or enjoyable.

I’ve even suggested he look up some info or watch something educational to help, and he said he would, but nothing changed. I’ve even pretended I just wanted to skip the “boring stuff” mid-foreplay so I could get out of the awkwardness.

So AITAH for feeling like I’m missing out? Is this just part of being with someone from a young age and growing together, or is there something else I should be doing here?