I (husband) am married to my wife. We’ve been together 8 years now. I want to preface this with saying I do love my wife. But lately I feel I am doing entirely too much by myself in the relationship. We just had a child. The child is now 6mo. The year leading up to it, my wife stopped working and rested more to ensure a safe healthy pregnancy. I of course agreed and supported it. After the birth and the next three months, I worked 6-7 day weeks to ensure she could stay home as much as possible without having to worry about going back to work. Now after three ish months of no work, finances are cutting it close (I do my best with working extra shifts a week but it’s rough), and she had to go back to work. This is my schedule: I work 3-4 days in a row, overnights so that she can stay home with the baby. I then get off and I stay up all day with the baby and then work the same night. It’s not unusual for me to go 2-3 days with no sleep. My shifts typically are 12-14 hours long. Or less then a couple hour naps here and there. When I’m home with the baby, I clean up the kitchen, pick up trash, do all laundry, clean floors, wipe down all counters, homework with my oldest, pick up after my wife and oldest. Basically any house chore you can think of, I do it. My wife, does nothing regarding the house. She doesn’t throw away her trash, her clothes cover the floor, dirty dishes everywhere. If she makes a meal, all the cooking ingredients are spilled and left out. Yes she was breast feeding and I know that’s exhausting and i provided as much comfort and nutrition to keep her healthy. I understand that. However, I’m constantly doing every house chore alone and I’m working 90~100 hours work weeks sometimes with extra shifts and I’m spending half the day or more with the baby too. In contrast she is working less then 20 hours a week, her shifts are 5 hours long, and spends the evenings with the child if I’m not off for once. So I tried communicating. I asked for help nicely. Her response is always rude and snappy. Or she yells and turns it on me. And if she does promise or agree to help, she never does. She hasn’t contributed to a bill on her own in almost 2 years, and I’ve paid for every expense. And she gets these ideas in her head such as she wants to work in the yard. I told her we have an entire inside house we need to work on; our child will crawl soon and the floor is disgusting and I’m struggling to keep it clean when I’m working so much. She gets mad. So I even caved and we took one of my off days to work in the yard. I ended up taking over and doing everything when she got tired. Please don’t take this as an offense or a regret for my child. I love my child and I love my wife. But am AITAH for being fed up with cleaning the entire house for months, working 3x+, and spending close to the same amount of time with the baby that she does? I know relationships are not 50/50; but a revolving 10-90 between each other, as long as each partner is contributing. But right now it’s currently a 90-10. I will never downplay her care and work she does with our child but it goes both ways; esp when I’m doing near as much as her with our child, some weeks more.