For context, my bf (25m) and I(26F) have been together for 2.5 years. We have a great relationship, however I am starting to gain resentment due to his lack of initiative for everything. I am his first girlfriend since high school, and truth be told he was spoiled/babied by his mother as he is the youngest and lived at home until we moved in together 5 months ago.

He never takes initiative for anything. If something needs to be cleaned or fixed, he won’t do it unless I ask him, 90% of the time I will just end up doing it and he will then come and “help” me when I’m halfway through that task. A month ago, I was very bothered by this so I told him I’m not his mother and he needs to take initiative, we had a great talk and he agreed he will do better. Well, that was very short lived. I am the one who cooks & cleans always and I’m tired of it. He will only do/help with things if I ask and I’m getting sick of it. We both work full-time and I feel like this dynamic is not fair and it’s affecting our intimacy because I feel like he treats me like I’m his mother. I cook 5 times a week, do the grocery shopping, deep clean our house twice a week. I have never once seen him cook anything only bacon & eggs… it would be so nice if he thought of something to cook for us and do it without me asking….. another note, we both split all bills. Mind you, he does mostly pay for groceries (70% of the time)

Another thing, he never initiates dates or activities. He will tell me he wants to do something and then it goes nowhere because he expects me to plan every thing and sometimes I really don’t want to plan something and wish he would. This was something that was also brought up during our previous talk but no success.

AITAH for being upset over this? I spoke with my mother and she said men are like this and its “normal” dynamic… I don’t agree, tbh I think her statement is sexist towards men and I think this is just my boyfriend being lazy and is having a great time living on easy mode.