I think it’s fair to say I was a bit more than upset and I’m kind of scared.

My sister (24) has been dealing with a lot. She has a fiancé who sits on his ass and plays Xbox while she cooks and cleans and takes care of her 3year old. She works two jobs and he works one and will “DoorDash” and I say that with “” because I don’t think he actually does because the money doesn’t add up.

My sister and I got a lump sum of money over a year ago and she blew threw it after 6months. She has a problem with coke. Even if she doesn’t admit it. It’s a problem. Her fiancé admitted to being addicted to heroin less than a year ago and there has been no proper treatments. Only random drug test by my sister to avoid cps getting involved. ~the drug test stopped after two/three months.

There is constant yelling in the house wether if it’s between themselves, the kid or towards the animals. It makes me uncomfortable to sit in her house longer than an hour. And I’ve been reached out by multiple friend groups of her voicing concern about her welling being and her mental state.

I’ve tried so hard to talk with her. I tried my best to tell her this isn’t really healthy. She always thinks I’m attacking her character or her ability but I really don’t want that to be the case. Like I think she’s a great person and she has a huge heart. I think she is running from some big issues and not facing them because she will realize she made some mistakes. She takes everything I say super personally so I’ve been walking on eggshells trying to find the right way and things to say.

I got so scared when I found out she had lied to me for a week about taking her dog to the vet. She lied to me about her asking others for help. She told me she asked everyone around her and they couldn’t give her any money to bring her dog to the vet but she was freaking out one night saying how he will die in her house unless she gets this money.

The whole situation was fucked and only when she got a few hundred dollars is when she brought her dog to the vet for the first time since she noticed him hurting after a week. The lie was she took him two weeks before. And then the week after. She she never took her dog to the vet. She had to put him down the day she brought him in. She was really upset I wasn’t willing to cough up 2000 dollars when she called so it was a big fight.

At this point I don’t know what to do. I’ve gone to her and tried to tell her in a pretty nice way many times that things aren’t healthy. I tried to offer safe spaces for her like therapy and I’ll pay. I offered family therapy. Nothing has worked. She thinks I’m attacking her. I just care about her well being and her mental state and I care about my nephew/niece growing up in a harsh environment like we did.

I’ve been watching things crash and burn slowly for a year. And I’ve been dealing with it alone. I didn’t know what to do so I got the moms involved. AITAH?