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my friend and i (both 24F) got into an argument recently over my bf doing something that upset her. during the argument it came out that id been wanting to take a step back from her for a while. when she asked me why, i told her it’s because for the last 5 years our friendship has been very one sided, every dinner/hangout/outing is about her. we only talked about her first bf and her, and then their break up, and now her current boyfriend and her issues with her parents, and how she wants to get married.” she started crying and got very defensive saying how could you say this and bring up my family issues (she’s been disowned by her family due to her sexuality). i apologized for bringing up her family but told her that i just feel we don’t discuss anything deep beyond gossip, recipes and weddings and she feels close to me but i don’t feel close to her because of this.

she hung up the phone and sent me a long text basically saying “fuck you for calling me self centered and boring, i never expected this from you, i thought we were best friends and i trusted you”. it wasn’t my intention and i told her on the phone i think she’s a nice person, we’re just different and i don’t want to be that close anymore but i hope we can still be friends as we’re in the same group. she didn’t respond, and blocked me on IG.

my friends say that i have the right to end a friendship any time i want and that there’s no nice way to end a friendship. but our mutual friends are on her side and one has told me that i was very selfish because i used her personal problems against her, and never even gave her a chance to work on it. she said i shouldn’t have brought it up as an argument to her when she was trying to bring up a problem to me, and that if i didn’t want to be her friend i should’ve just told her that and not exploited the personal things she confided in me about.

i don’t feel like i did that because i was just telling her how she made me me feel but our mutual friends are really mad at me. i didn’t mean to hurt her but at the same time she isn’t the easiest person to be friends with and i feel like i was pushed to my limit. am i the asshole for how i told her i don’t want to be friends?