My boyfriend (M/27) and I (F/26) have been together for about 2 years. We moved in together after 3 months of dating. Now the thing is my boyfriend basically lied to me our entire relationship. For starters he cheated, lied to me about his employment, wasted all his money on porn, and lots of other things.

I tried to break up with him but I don't know how else to describe it aside from he refuses to leave the house I pay for. In the back of my head I am waiting for that lease term to be up so I can legally be away from him as I have no where else to stay and finances are a bit tight.

This is where old guy comes in. We actually have known each other through work for about 5 years and I even grew up with his younger cousin. So we have briefly crossed paths when I was a kid but obviously we didn't know each other. He was previously married. I have never once thought of him in a romantic way and vice versa. Anyways I originally broke things off with my boyfriend and we were "broken up" for two weeks but I just fell into the limbo of being with him because he would not leave. During this time frame is when I would say we actually started becoming friends and not just co workers who crossed paths.

Like I said we work together and he is going through his divorce and I'm going through my bullshit and we just became friends. Nothing flirty but checking up on each other and maybe grabbing a beer or two after work.

Until one day... Idk he just looked at me different and was essentially barking up my tree. We have been on and off talking for about two months.

I then had a pretty bad event where my boyfriend got violent. I of course ended up venting to my friend after the fact. I again went through the process of breaking up with my boyfriend and him refusing to leave and I'm back in the limbo.

So my friend was under the impression we were done. let's just say the flirting surpassed a normal banter. We went out after work and talked the whole night.After that he essentially asked me out and said he wants to treat me the way I deserve. That's when I told him my boyfriend and I are still technically together.

He said he was under the impression we were not anymore. Once I explained the situation he was profusely telling me I need to get out. Opened up about his previous marriage and how she was abusive as well and said he doesn't want that for me. Said with or without him I need to find happiness and he doesn't want me wasting the next 10 years of my life being mistreated. He said he can't wait until my lease is up but that i need to leave for my own happiness not anyone else's. Gave me a little kiss on the head and that was it.

We still talk but it's pretty tame. Just like he checks up on how I'm doing and reminds me that if I need anything to call him.

Considering he is 45 and I'm 26 I feel like this just has daddy issues all over it. However I will say it's changed my perspective on what I deserve.

After that night I've pretty much decided I don't care about the lease term I need to end it with my boyfriend. But I feel like an asshole for essentially emotionally cheating on him with a man twice my age. Part of me is really trying to sit out and make sure I'm not leaving him to jump into a relationship with an old guy. I honestly need to be alone. But I know none of this looks good on my end.