Okay so where do I begin.... I (23F) have been seeing this guy (27F) for about a 2 months now. We went out on valentine's day and have been inseparable since. He is doing extremely well financially (retired and almost at 8 figures) and he's taken extremely great care of me since we've met.

Shopping sprees, lavish dinners, penthouses, you name it. We've spent a lot of time together in this short amount of time and things have been progressing very quickly. We've had a few hiccups during the first month where he insinuated that I don't actually like him as a person and only like the nice things he does for me. He feels this way because I don't satisfy him enough sexually. I've tried to reassure him that I actually really like him (many and many times) and that I'm just not really a hyper sexual person. I've also expressed to him how we're still getting to know each other and that I take time to "warm up". We do have sex and do all of the "relationship" things, but the issue is that I don't do it enough and he feels like because of everything he does and buys for me it should be more consistent.

He's told me many of times that there's other women that would "die to be in my position" and he wouldn't have to ask them to satisfy him. After a few conversations and dealing with his attitude because of it, I've tried to be more romantic towards him and make him feel more wanted. I thought things were going good up until yesterday....

During my lunch break I decided to hang out with him. I ended up falling asleep (I work early mornings) and while I was asleep....he went through my phone. I didn't know immediately, but I did sense his energy change. So last night, he finally tells me that he went through my phone and found messages between one of me and my old guy friends.

This is a guy friend that I told him about during week 2 of us hanging out because I was telling him another story that involved him.... but I didn't mention that I slept with him a few times in 2022-2023. I completely understand that I should've just been up front, but I was just getting to know him(the guy I'm dating) and didn't really feel the need to talk about my past sex life that early on. Especially because me and the guy are not really friends anymore. We maybe say hey to each other once every month. But we have not slept together since I was 21. So anyways he read all of the texts between me and this guy dating back to 2021 and got extremely upset with me. He says it because of the way I would interact with this guy and things we'd talk about sexually. He was really upset because he feels like I lied about not being hyper sexual because of things I would say to my guy friend after we'd have sex (I'd tell him that I enjoyed it and things of that nature etc.) So basically he called me a liar, said I'm not who he thought I was, I've destroyed his trust, and he no longer considers me girlfriend material. He said a bunch of other things along the lines of me being just like the rest and accused me of f*ing other guys that I say I'm friends with.

He's been telling me that he no longer will be exclusive with me until I prove myself to him and that I will have to deal with the consequences of my actions (not telling him/lying to him about the fact that I've had sex with this guy). He said his opinion of me is forever tainted.

I apologized, but I honestly don't know if I'm wrong. I mean I have not met up, kissed, hooked up, or entertained another guy since we started talking on February 14th... I understand he's upset because I didn't tell him that I f*cked this guy friend but am I really that terrible???

Side note: He went through my phone entirely, so there's other things he learned about my past and personality from text messages with my friends that he probably was taken aback by.....

Also want to add that I opened up to him last night about my feelings for him, my past, my fears, and everything else. His response was that it was all "bullshit" and he doesn't believe a word I said. However, he still has feelings for me and I need to prove to him why he should get over this.