I (20f) am pregnant with my bf (21m). We’ve been together 8 months and we are both in college. Please spare me the judgement about not being more careful about birth control because believe me, there’s nothing you could say to me that I haven’t already said to myself. I’m an idiot. I forget to take my pill all the time, and now I’m facing the consequences. I’ve accepted that

I want to keep the baby but I DO NOT want to do this alone. My bf doesn’t want to be involved. So logically, we’d have to break up if I were to have the baby. He says that if women can choose to terminate a pregnancy, men should be able to choose to give up their involvement as a father as long as this is communicated to the mother ASAP. He says he wants me to be able to make an informed decision based on all factors as it is my choice at the end of the day. We had a very open, honest, and respectful conversation. He says he loves me and hates the thought of losing me, but he doesn’t want to be a dad for a very long time. He has lots of plans and goals for after college and he is not willing to compromise them.

Truthfully, I don’t want to be a single mom. I watched my own mom struggle and it was hard. I will not have this kid and force my bf to be involved because that only brings a lifetime of stress and heartache for both myself and my child. He was straight with me about his feelings on this situation, and I respect that.

My appt is for next week. Whenever I think about it, I realize that I already feel resentment for my bf. I think we need to break up even if I am getting the abortion. I told him this, not because I wanted to give him an ultimatum, but because I genuinely feel that I will never be able to look at him the same. I’ll always think, “what if…” when I look at him. I wish I could simply turn off these feelings, but I can’t. On one hand, I want this baby but on the other hand, I am sick to my stomach about the thought of doing it alone. I think the best thing for both of us is for me to terminate and move on from him. He says this is a manipulation tactic. He thinks I’m doing this just so he’ll cave and support this baby. This isn’t true. I have already decided that I’m getting the abortion regardless because even if he were to change his mind now, I know he’d only be doing it out of guilt. At the end of the day, our relationship is over. It sucks. It makes me really sad. I’m heartbroken. I love him. But this is a major life event, and we are no longer compatible. So? AITAH if I break up with him?