Am I (19M) the asshole for being uncomfortable around a stranger living with me, who has DV charges.

Around 14 years aging my family was close with another from the elementary school I went to. I was a lot younger when we would have get togethers and have little to no memory of them.

The husband (Call him B) was married to a strict Christian woman, and obviously shared a religious ideology. I have nothing against religion and wish everyone to express their beliefs freely—however being apart of the LGBT community, the comments my sister tells me they would make about me were…unsettling.

Fast forward to now. I haven’t heard my parents talk, or meet up with B at all. I didn’t even recognize the name the first time they brought him back up to me. The first conscious impression I have of this dude is “He broke up with his crazy wife, got with another crazy woman who now has accused him of beating her”. MY FIRST IMPRESSION of this guy and it’s speculation regarding DV.

They proceed to tell me his family (4 other kids aged 10-20) have all cut him off, the church pastor who was his close friend has cut him off.

A few weeks later he’s moving into the spare bedroom. He hardly talks to me, and anytime he does it’s angry rambling about his situation. I find this so strange, because my parents have never been a support system for this man. He’s never been over since I was around 7, and they’ve never brought him up before.

Now, my parents whole heartedly believe him, and that he would never do such a thing. But it’s such a red flag to me that his kids are choosing not to talk to him. I don’t know this guy, and am uncomfortable around him. They don’t seem to understand that—sure to them he is someone they’ve known for a while, but to me, he is a stranger with violent charges. I have brought this up countless times, and am always met with vague excuses for his charges. Calling the wife “Mrs.Crazy” and “Bat shit”. This is another red flag to me. My parents are only hearing his side, and the terminology seems a bit extreme and hateful? But apparently his previous wife was just as crazy; but at what point does it become a pattern within himself? I truly believe your partners can be a reflection of who you are.

Now, he went on a trip back home a month ago, and just got back. I had no idea he was coming back, so when he walked back in the door I send a rude text to my parents. Basically saying they are legally housing a DV perpetrator.

They got pissed and I’m getting semi silent treatment. I honestly don’t think I’m being too extreme. I have brought all of these concerns up, and have told them that I am uncomfortable. But they have brushed me off and ignored my concerns. So AITA for making this comment? It was a bit harsh but honestly I’m feeling sick in my own space.

Sorry if timeline is wonky or information seems a bit erratic, they have kept me in the dark regarding the logistics of his case, and what’s happened to him.