I (F26) met a boy(M29) through arrange marriage setup and liked the boy very much though he made it clear in the first meeting that he was conservative like wanted to live with parents and all.. that was nothing new to me so I didn’t had any problem. After the engagement he came to know that i drank occasionally and confronted me to it and I made it clear that it was a few times and will not do it in future. Further after the engagement he came to know that in my bachelors party i drank some cocktail and was very furious and i said it was just celebratory and this was never going to happen again. And since then i never did it and we were good. Fast forward to nearly 1 year after our wedding he was checking my phone when i was sleeping ( we share passwords) and opened a chat where he came to know i used to smoke and some other things which was way long before even knowing him. I assured him that that was long gone and i am not doing any smoking/drinking now. He also had problem with my guy friends as to which i stopped talking to him after wedding. But after reading the chat he went into a spiral and told his and my parents about all things and in Indian household this is a big thing even for a boy. And i am a girl. Now everyone just knows everything and i don’t think they’ll look at me the same again. And after the incident he is acting very hot and cold with me like demeaning me and acting very harshly when we are alone and very nice in front of others. He is otherwise very nice and does everything for me.

I feel like i am trapped and cant survive like this i love him and he knows it so it favours him in this situation to torture me in different ways (not physical) emotionally I am drained and can’t think of anything how to change this.

Advise me how to make the better ?