I (22M) have been sharing a 1 bedroom apartment with my roommate (30) and 6 animals, we're also siblings which is what primarily complicates things. Around the beginning of the pandemic we moved in together as an attempt to escape an abusive household and try to bond as we never had been close before, we began with 3 dogs.

Now it's been 5 years and with no real positive changes I'm deciding to find a room for rent as our lease has ended but my roommate will have no real conversation with me about how to move forward now that our rent has raised as we're living off lease. They got a good job thru a friend and I had overheard on a phone call they had that they now make around 3k biweekly, regardless I feel guilty to make them foot a 1800 rent payment we originally were splitting due to personal differences I believe I can no longer live with.

Off and on for the past year I had been helping them with their missing half of rent as their income dwindled from their bad luck with jobs. They are a daily stoner which I feel effects their ability to make rational decisions as addictions run in the family and well I've learned firsthand from the lack of growth that their habit has sprung. Hand in hand they manage their money pretty poorly and have this strange need to have a lot of pets which I've voiced concern over but have accepted as their choice of lifestyle.

I personally feel a bit of responsibility to stay and care for these 6 animals as they're a bit neglectful in some aspects and aren't as clean or forthcoming with walking and grooming them as an owner should. When it was only three I insisted we can't have anymore and we'd even argue about giving a dog up for adoption since we don't have a yard and we both work full-time. Regardless one day they showed up with an unfixed dog which eventually became a pregnant dog that then had puppies they would promise to find homes for which were essentially never found. Unfortunately the dogs have grown closer to me and I can only hope and pray that my departure won't effect them too much cause at least the pets have each other.

It's hard to live with someone that's my own blood but never talks to me about anything other than money or the dogs when needed and I'm sure vice versa. When we moved in I was also pretty addicted to weed so I was able to numb the pain the dysfunction made me feel but I've been sober 7 months now and my situation just depresses/embarrasses me all the more.

Plenty of friends I had fell off as my life had begun to revolve around trying to bond over weed with my sibling and balancing how to keep up with such a strange living situation. I moved really purposelessly throughout life but now that I'm clearheaded I want to start community college maybe even start traveling, just making up for the lack of a life I've been living while tied to my roommate and stressing over the rent that's never on time or equal.

To make matters worse our schedules do not match lately so when they are getting home I'm heading to bed but their arrival prompts all the dogs to bark and play and I have no door to shut out the noise so I've been working my ten hours shifts on like 5 hours of sleep every night, this and then coming home to just clean up after pets I don't really want to only repeat the cycle is having me make up my mind quicker than ever before. The small disrespects and very blant disinterest in forming a healthy sibling relationship has made me all the more wish to move on without ever looking back.

When they got this job they'd tell me just a few checks will be saved and we can find a two bedroom somewhere for more space for the animals and also make up for how I've been in a loft area with limited privacy. About a week ago I brought up if we're still on plan, they just told me we might as well sign the lease since moving is just too much. I understand it might be a lot to juggle their bills with also saying a big portion for a deposit but their pattern of making broken promises and offering no alternative is really confusing me lately.

I told them if they decide to sign the lease I'll most likely move out on my own since I can't live like this anymore and they just told me well find a room somewhere then and it's been radio silence since and avoidance from one another. I've been finding rooms that are a little less or just about same as I've been paying for only a small office area. I'm deciding to tell them after we pay the rent late again this week that I'm on my way but I can't help but feel like a real asshole about it.