So I (23F) have a 3 month old baby with my partner (24M) and his family has always been a lot. They love the baby and always want to see him, which I get, but every time I go over there there’s some new issue or microaggression that just ruins my day.

We recently had his mom babysit at our place while we went out. I don’t love the idea because his family already oversteps a lot of boundaries, but we’re not paying anyone and she’s available so fine. Come to find out today that his dad stopped by during that time. Normally that wouldn’t bother me but his dad has made me super uncomfortable in the past from unsolicited advice to borderline creepy behavior just overall weird vibes. My partner did talk to him about it a while back and things have been calmer, but still, why wouldn’t his mom tell us he came over? Especially when she knows how I feel about him?

Fast forward to today. We went to visit and my boyfriend was packing up some food his mom made. It’s late, like 10pm, and she tells him he should just eat there. He says he’s tired. She then whispers to him thinking I can’t hear “Did she go to the gym today?” He says yes. A few minutes later when he steps out to pack the car she straight up asks me again if I went to the gym. Like are you trying to catch me in a lie? Is this an interrogation? I told her yes again. Then she follows up with “Did you bring the baby with you to the gym?” in this weird concerned tone. Like ma’am what are you implying?

Then my partner asks if I want cake. I say no. A minute later he comes back with cake and I’m pretty sure his mom said something in her language telling him to give me a slice anyway. I said no again and she goes “You’re here you have to eat something.” Ma’am my stomach hurts I’m exhausted and I need to get my baby to bed. Why is everything such a thing?

And to add to all of that, she always calls him her baby. Like constantly. And I’m trying to keep the peace but it gets under my skin. Especially because when I first found out I was pregnant I wanted an abortion. I wasn’t ready, mentally or financially, and I was very vocal about that. But they pressured me really hard to keep the baby. I love him so much now and I’m thankful he’s here, but every time we go over there she brings up how she prayed for him to stay. She thanks God I kept him. She says things like “I’m so glad you didn’t go through with it” or “God answered my prayers.” And it’s like… ma’am. Sensitive topic. Why do you keep bringing it up?

I don’t know if I’m overreacting or being sensitive but this kind of stuff happens every single time I go over there. It’s like death by 1000 cuts. I’m just over it and thinking about not tagging along for visits anymore and just letting him go with the baby sometimes.

So AITAH for wanting to step back from these visits?