For some context my best friend is having her birthday party coming up. We’re all freshman in college and go to seperate schools out of state so we don’t see each other often but often enough. Our friend group is mainly me, Stacy and Meghan. Stacy’s best friend since middle school is Alex. Alex and Meghan used to be best friends in highschool and I used to be friends with Alex too, until Alex was talking bad about me and my friends behind my back. Me and Meghan stopped being friends with her. Stacy did not, and they’re still friends to this day.

So. Stacy’s party is coming up and she told me she wants to get my thoughts on inviting Alex since they’re good friends still. She said Meghan is fine with it (Alex and Meghan have talked it out but just aren’t friends anymore. Me and Alex haven’t talked at all). Stacy said it’s drama from sophomore year and I should push it aside for her birthday.

I told Stacy I won’t be going if Alex is and to do it without me. Not only do I still hold a grudge, but I’m gonna be the odd one out here since all of them are okay with each other (there’s also another girl going that I don’t like that they all are friends with, so that’s two people I don’t get along with and I’d be, like, fourth wheeling). I don’t want to put myself in that position. This is just something I’m not comfortable with and a boundary I’m not willing to cross.

Stacy is a little upset with me. I feel bad, and I don’t want it to sound like I’m putting myself first and being selfish for Stacy’s birthday. I don’t know what I’m supposed to say or how to react, and I don’t know if I’m the one in the wrong.